Post Date April, 15 2023
At the university meeting, I was the vice president of the student union, and my husband was the president of the student union. At that time, there were many people chasing me, but I chose him who was excellent in character and education but from a poor family.
On campus, classmates all say that we are talented and beautiful, but in the eyes of my parents and relatives, my husband simply doesn't deserve me.
When I graduated, I gave up my stable job in my hometown and went to his hometown with my husband.
"I found a job as an" accountant "in a private company, while my husband has been struggling for more than a year.". During this period, I didn't complain a word, and comforted him that "a man should first get married before starting a career.". For this reason, I married my husband naked.
After marriage, my husband still had trouble finding a job, and I was already pregnant. In order for my husband to have something to do, I resigned with a strong stomach, borrowed over 100000 yuan from my parents, and accepted a small supermarket. The supermarket legal person didn't dare to write his own name, fearing that his husband would feel inferior.
Later, our business grew larger and larger, and we bought a new house and drove a good car.
I thought I could teach my husband and children now, but my husband cheated on me. The other person was an unmarried woman who was over a decade younger than me.
I have seen that woman, younger than me, prettier than me, and more capable of whining than me.
"I never thought about how I would fight back after my husband's infidelity, because I never thought that a couple like us who were" sharing weal and woe "and" starting from scratch "would also have an infidelity.".
After discovering that my husband was cheating, I was ill for a week and cried for a week. After that, I calmly filed for a divorce.
My husband didn't want a divorce and knelt before me saying he was wrong.
My husband has indeed separated from that woman and is even better to me than before.
I thought I could forgive, and I tried to forgive. However, in the days that followed, I watched all my husband's actions nauseated, and I lost the tolerance that couples should have.
Actually, I don't want to, but I can't control myself.
One day, I happened to go out with my next-door neighbor, who was not familiar with me because they had just moved in.
"He greeted me first and said, 'We'll be neighbors from now on. I hope you'll take more care of us.'"
His simple and honest smile and white teeth when he spoke suddenly gave me a sense of familiarity, and in the days that followed, I was distracted and wanted to chat with him.
He is a bachelor, three years younger than me, and has had a love affair for seven years. Because his family is poor, his girlfriend of seven years finally kicked him out. For this reason, he hid in the city where I live and started working alone in a strange city.
I can't say whether I like him or sympathize with him. When I didn't have enough "trust" with him, I volunteered to spend 100000 yuan to help him start a business, and even slept with him every time my husband got drunk.
A year later, he repaid me the money I lent her, and we still maintained a romantic relationship.
"Until a few days ago, he seriously said to me, 'Are you willing to divorce me?' which caused me to ponder. I didn't immediately give him the answer.". These days, I have been thinking about this matter.
In the face of my husband who once hurt me and a man who loves me deeply, how should I choose?
Re:
The love between you and your husband has consumed all your love in your life. Currently, the reason why you are so passionate about men other than your husband is that you are unconsciously retaliating against your husband.
The reason why you can get along happily with the man next door is, on the one hand, that the other person is single, and on the other hand, that your husband did not notice your cheating. If, now that your husband knows that you're wearing a green hat and making trouble with you, do you still have leisure and elegance to have sex with the man next door?
"The most important role for a woman in her life is as a mother. Therefore, even if you want to divorce her husband, children will be your biggest obstacle.".
"It's not right for your husband to take the lead in cheating, but his subsequent performance in the affairs of cheating was very good and his apology was sincere, indicating that his cheating was just a moment of confusion.".
Currently, you have also achieved psychological balance through cheating, and it is time to stop.
Have a heart-to-heart talk with the neighbor next door. I believe he will choose to break up peacefully.
People are not afraid of being lost, they are afraid of being stubborn.
"Still use the simplest way to manage marriage, show selflessness in love, and you will find that your husband is really not that bad.".
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
