Husband and wife always quarrel, and if he doesn't let me or I don't let him, what should I do

[Question]

My husband is seven years older than me, and we were introduced by our family, which is considered a flash marriage. "Now that we have been married for four years, we are usually okay with me, but when we encounter problems, we often quarrel and feel that he doesn't make me feel sad.".

After the quarrel, we didn't talk to each other, and I was also a stubborn person. If he didn't talk to me, I couldn't have said it to him first. I hesitate to do things and want him to help me make decisions, but he always lets me make my own decisions, which is very annoying!

I like men who have courage, and I don't feel attracted to my husband. However, he is more family oriented and doesn't know how to take such a long road in the future based on our personality?

[Answer]

When arguing, you are always angry, and abnormal emotions lead to abnormal behavior. You want him to always let you go, but you didn't let him either, did you?

"You are stubborn, and a quarrel can lead to a long cold war. Judging from the fact that you two can still talk now, almost every time you quarrel, he first spoke up and softened up later. Bowing his head like this is already a form of forbearance.". Again and again, it's even more rare. "However, over time, your Cold War will continue for longer and longer. Although quarreling is also a way of communication between couples, it can hurt feelings and make people question marriage.".

"You think that when you marry someone, you should have a backup, but he wants you to remain independent and make your own decisions, instead of having to deal with major and minor issues.". What is courage? Making a wife do everything according to her own arrangements is barbaric, and courage is reflected in the determination of the general direction of the family. If he can make up his mind on real big issues, he is a competent husband. As for other sporadic matters, how did you decide before marrying him, and how do you decide now.

"You have a hesitant personality, but when you marry him, you immediately make a decision, indicating that his original conditions were very satisfactory to you and your family.". "I now feel that what doesn't appeal to you in him is tempered by life. When you think about the days with him, you just think of the indifference and resentment during the fight, and it's subjective and biased to say that he doesn't appeal to you. This sentence itself is another angry sentence.". Angry words have no effect. They can only worsen your impression of your spouse and your current life. The quality of life is about 70% to 80%, and because of anger, you may feel that you don't even get 20 points.

When most couples quarrel, they have the idea of "how can I marry such a person?" They wish they had a divorce. However, after the quarrel, most couples also disappear, with their lips touching their teeth, so they can't stop eating. Life still has to be lived, less fussing and more caring.

Aiming at "usually treating me well" and "caring for the family", we should also be content and cherish them. There is no husband and wife who do not quarrel, as long as they can live in peace most of the time, it is a good marriage.