Post Date December, 03 2023
That incident has been going on for some time now. It was a bit too hot every day. I went out to handle some small things, and on the way back, I was sweating profusely from the midday sun. The phone happened to ring at that time, and I couldn't express my annoyance. Opening my phone, I took a deep breath and suppressed the annoyance caused by the explosive heat. Then, I connected the phone and with the answer button pressed, An anxious voice came from the other end of the phone, as if I couldn't wait for the speed of my answer. Across the screen, I could feel her eagerness. As soon as the phone was connected, she asked me a series of questions, including identity and what I was doing. She confirmed that I was the person she was looking for, and then breathed a little slowly, but then came a choking voice.
What's the matter, what can I help you with? "I tried to communicate with her as a friend and asked her why she came to me.
How could he be so heartless? We were so good at the time, and what was wrong with him? Why couldn't we give me a chance to start over? I made breakfast for him every day, gave him... "She spoke excitedly and cried a lot, and I finally understood that it was her recent outburst that caused her to break up with her boyfriend who worked at the bank, but she was not willing, At that time, she was just angry and now she regrets it, but her boyfriend didn't want to forgive her and didn't want to start over again.
After listening to her talk, I didn't immediately answer. After a while, I said something to calm her down. Then I began to analyze her situation, including anger, breakup, regret, and wanting to get back together. The most trendy love issue among young people nowadays is, in a word, why should we have known now? But people don't have the ability to predict, who knows what will happen in the future, let alone being angry, Here comes the question, why do many people cry out to break up when they are angry, and after breaking up, if they regret it, can it really be saved? That's how she asked me at the time, and that's how I told her.
Firstly, are you sure that your breakup was just a matter of anger? If it's just anger, then you don't really want to break up. So why talk about breaking up? Many people can't help but say it when they are angry, perhaps with the purpose of scaring the other party, but this method is very infeasible. One time may work, it will make the other party give in, but over time, you make this phrase a catchphrase, and he also hears it with a cocoon in his ear. This saying goes too much, He will feel that you don't care enough about him, so he will comply with your wishes and take your angry words seriously.
Secondly, are you sure that you don't care about his stable job? Bankers are always considered an iron rice bowl, and there are still many people envious of them. Therefore, every time you make a fuss and make up, it will make him misunderstand that you may not care about him so much.
Thirdly, you are certain that you truly regret it. If you regret it, you truly want to get back together and live a good life, then you need to overcome your shortcomings. You have to be constantly fighting, break up and leave, and then regret and turn back. This way, the repeated turmoil can no longer exist. It is understandable that there is an argument between lovers, but always using the word 'break up' can often be very hurtful.
At that time, she thought it was reasonable and vowed to correct those shortcomings. I didn't take it seriously until I received her phone call again today, saying that she wanted to invite me to have wedding candy. When I asked, she told me, and I remembered. She said that she and her boyfriend were getting married now, thanks to the guidance she gave at that time, she kept that sentence in mind and recited it several times a day. Although they still had occasional arguments between them, But she never said goodbye again, but whenever she wanted to say that sentence, she immediately stopped and stopped arguing. Gradually, their arguments became less intense, and their relationship grew deeper. Finally, they confirmed that they were the ones entrusted for life.
