Post Date December, 02 2023
When we see the word "brokenhearted", we immediately associate the feeling of "pain". Indeed, a lovelorn relationship is one that is denied or interrupted by the other half, which can lead to a sense of frustration, resulting in a sense of abandonment and unloved, and can make the lovelorn feel very painful. Some people struggle in the whirlpool of pain and even choose to end their lives. We all know that doing so is irrational, so how can we resolve the lovelorn crisis?
First of all, we should understand that walking out of a lovelorn relationship generally involves six psychological stages.
First of all, we should understand that walking out of a lovelorn relationship generally involves six psychological stages. The six stages are: pain, anger, self pity, disdain, understanding, and freedom. The psychological crisis mainly occurs in the first three stages. When we break up with our romantic partner, we can be very painful. Actually, this is a normal psychological phenomenon. After all, in this relationship, we have paid so much, but when we have paid without results, this can make us feel a sense of loss, and we will be very painful. If you don't feel pain when you break up, it's abnormal, indicating that you never loved at all. So first of all, we need to accept our own painful feelings and understand that this is a normal psychological lag reaction. Instead of seeing yourself in pain, thinking that you can't live without the other person. If we can be willing to accept the fact that the other person has left us, and accept our own painful feelings, then we can resolve the crisis of the first step of lovelorn relationships.
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When we accept the fact that the other person has left, we often begin to express anger. We will completely separate ourselves from each other at this time. Our anger at this time mainly comes from our feeling that the other person is out of control. "Because the other party has completely drawn a line with themselves, they can no longer control him in the future, so they feel angry.". Some irrational lovelorns will choose to hurt each other at this time. They feel that since they cannot get it, it is better to destroy them, which can at least prove that they still have control to some extent. In this stage, to resolve the lovelorn crisis, the main thing is for the lovelorn to learn to accept their sense of loss. At this time, it is advisable to go out for a walk, shift their attention, and not take controlling the other person as the whole of life. You can also do something you like and satisfy your sense of control in other ways.
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When there is no sense of anger at the departure of the other half, a brokenhearted relationship enters the third stage: self pity. In the first stage, the pain is mainly directed at the loss of the person he has. By the third stage, many people will begin to generalize to the point of losing the love of the whole world. Lovelorn people often have a terrible mental belief. I feel that my life is not good, I have no one to love anymore. In the future, I can no longer believe anyone and dare not be loved by anyone. Proper self closure is actually a way to protect yourself by not giving, so there is no harm left. But excessive self pity can make a person completely close himself up. Over time, he cannot feel the flow of life, and naturally feels that living is meaningless. At this time, if you want to get out of the psychological crisis, you must learn to appropriately open yourself. If you have no courage for love, you can also cherish friendship. When you have strength in your heart, start your new love again.
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Lovelorn love is a painful thing, how to get out of the pain of lovelorn love at this time? Lovelorn relationships often cause a strong psychological crisis for the person involved. For different stages of psychological crisis, the above discussion and analysis of their respective solutions, which will definitely be helpful to you in a lovelorn relationship. If you really can't get out of it, you can find experts from the China Marriage and Love Psychological Consultation Portal to help you solve this crisis. We have helped many people successfully break away from lovelorn relationships, lovelorn psychological consultation cases!
