Post Date December, 03 2023
Psychologists believe that men should be given enough psychological "nutrition" and "leisure", and at the same time, men should adjust themselves and not be too stubborn.
Recently, a psychological survey showed that more than 60% of men, especially middle-aged men, are under great psychological pressure. As a social cell - the "backbone" of the family, the man's psychological barrier not only affects himself, but also affects the family and becomes an important social problem.
Experts call for caring and caring for men's physical and mental health, so that they can free themselves from the heavy burden and walk out of the "difficult" era.
■ Helplessly under the social burden
Mr. Li from Xi'an is the boss of a company. When the reporter went to interview Mr. Li, he was always punctual and was two hours late. He looked very tired and depressed. After a long silence, he told the reporter that his wife suspected his sexual function was declining and forced him to go to the hospital for examination.
Mr. Li is just over 40 years old. Several years ago, he changed his job from a state-owned enterprise to a private enterprise. At the end of last year, several people jointly established a home decoration company. After more than one year of operation, he has a small reputation in the industry. But for the busy work every day, we either go to the construction site or have dinner with customers. The social pressure is high, and we often go home late, sometimes even at night. His wife thought he had an affair, and after learning from many colleagues, denied his suspicion of having an affair. But when he came home every night, when his wife urged him to take a rest, he always said that it was not comfortable here, and that it was not comfortable there to perfunctory his wife, and then he simply took a separate bed rest. His wife suspected that he had a problem and took him to the hospital for examination, but found nothing wrong. The doctor just told him that he was under too much psychological pressure.
According to Mr. Li, every day when he comes home, his wife will always chatter about which star enterprise has been on TV and which company has become a famous enterprise... He is afraid to go home and spends all day in the office or on the construction site. Sometimes sharing a room with his wife may not make his wife happy. The greatest pleasure is to surf the Internet or to lecture employees.
Psychologists believe that the excessive expectations of men, together with the burden of men, the unfair environment of society, and work pressure, are the main sources of male mental diseases. For middle-aged men, energy decline, premature aging, hair loss, insomnia all night long, and so on, have become almost universal phenomena. They have experienced the stability of the planned economy and the intense pressure of the planned economy. They have experienced the advantages and disadvantages of both economies, and have become the mainstream of social entrepreneurship and a very characteristic class in the transition period. They also need the care of families and all sectors of society.
■ Psychological gloom in the female aura
Mr. Lin is a private enterprise owner. The company has a large scale and considerable income. His wife is a well-known local government official. The two couples should be a perfect match in this city, but in the eyes of others, they seem not so comfortable. In the gathering with friends, Mr. Lin shows not the demeanor of an entrepreneur, but a cynical gangster.
When people say that he is the husband of XXX, the expression on his face is very embarrassing. Because of this, he doesn't like to work and cooperate with acquaintances. He is afraid that acquaintances will talk about his lover's work and often get angry in the office for no reason. He felt that he was living in the "halo of his wife". Although his income was much more than his wife, he still felt that he was "soft food". No matter how gentle his wife treated him, he always felt depressed. The favorite way to escape is to drink alone in a bar with loud music, smoke one after another, or play games crazily. There are two similar dreams in the night. One is the tense scene during the college entrance examination, and the other is the difficulty of walking under the rock.
When consulting the doctor, he learned that he was too sensitive to his own situation and lacked the ability to understand the things in front of him with a normal mind. In addition, some people around him said that it was difficult to get rid of the pressure. Fear of losing their health, fear of losing their career, and so on, make men vulnerable, depressed, and difficult to control.
Psychologists believe that men's mental illness caused by various pressures comes from the people they associate with. Generally, successful people face more pressure than ordinary people. It is very important to give men enough psychological "nutrition" and "leisure". Of course, as a man, he should also learn to adjust himself when facing these things. Sometimes he should even have a little "Ah q spirit". Don't be too serious, let alone get to the point.
(Intern editor: Zhao Minqing)
