Post Date December, 03 2023
Have you ever mocked the various vows of love in Qiong Yao's dramas that you never marry, and have you been limited by various material conditions in reality and do not believe in the so-called love. No matter what, one day you also met the person who made you believe in love again. Your love relationship naturally made you feel satisfied, and you immerse yourself in it and feel that this is happiness.
But no matter what kind of love, it must go through the polishing of time, and gradually your love will reveal its original form. This may be very different from what you initially expected. Some people silently accept it, while others give up the relationship. So in the face of the reality of love being polished by time, what you need to do is to strive to manage it, so that your love can maintain its original appearance, which is the same as how beauty knows skincare and care to make herself look forever young.
So do you know how to manage your own love?
Not understanding the consequences of managing love
A friend of Xiao Bian has been in love with her boyfriend for eight years. Like all lovers, they always had endless topics and endless phone Congee at the beginning of their love. But as time goes on, their relationship tends to be more like the companionship of family members, and their feelings for each other are no longer as intense as when they first started dating. The topics between the two gradually decreased, and due to various reasons such as academic work, their time spent communicating and interacting with each other was greatly reduced. The two of them let this relationship go and didn't even get in touch for a few months, eventually breaking up. The girl had been thinking about falling in love for so many years and would eventually marry her boyfriend of eight years, but in the end, she broke up.
It is not difficult to see that they are not without a relationship, but each of them has a certain period of fatigue in their love, and during this period of fatigue, they did not find a way to manage their relationship with each other. Ignoring emotions, having no topic and no way to communicate, having no time to meet and not striving to buy time for each other to meet. They didn't manage their relationship with all their heart, and the outcome of the breakup was not surprising.
Communication is crucial in relationships
Although I cherish the relationship with the other person in my heart, I don't know how to manage it, which is really a headache. The editor believes that communication is particularly important in relationships, and only through mutual communication can couples understand and understand each other. Only by understanding the other person's thoughts and understanding their current life can the relationship last. If you don't even have the most basic communication, you gradually deviate from the other person's life, close your heart tightly, and your relationship will naturally become cold. So communication plays a crucial role in managing love.
No matter how long a relationship lasts, it requires freshness
You can strive to create various small surprises for her on your anniversary, not necessarily at a high cost, as long as you let her understand your intentions. Many couples, after years of dating, believe that they are already "old husbands and wives", and that the surprise gifts for Valentine's Day are no longer needed for each other. Actually, it's not the case. No matter how long your relationship lasts, your love needs some small surprises and new ideas to keep it fresh. This is also a part of managing love.
This is also why many girls say that boys only put the most effort into chasing you, and after catching you, it's just that. If you are interested in your love, please do not treat her with such a mindset.
Mutual progress and growth between couples
No matter how you first met, in the process of love, couples need to actively grow together. This growth can be reflected in both parties' efforts to accept new things, improve their speech, abilities, and so on. Two people can progress together, and gradually your love will become more perfect.
What are the tips for managing love?
Consider letting go or opening up your heart
Simply put: Don't try to control the direction of your partner or relationship. This is a tricky issue because we all have some "hypothetical" blueprints for certain things in our minds, and once things are different from them, the situation becomes quite bad and no longer solid. Control is a major issue for many relationships. When you are emotionally involved in a relationship, you may be afraid to let go of the steering wheel, but you must do so. Attempting to control your relationship often leads to the opposite of what you want. We not only need to recognize this, but we must also achieve it no matter what. We always seem unable to resist, but we must do it.
Respect each other
If you want to know if a couple has a deep relationship or if their relationship has already turned red, just observe the expressions and tone of their conversation to see the clues. If any one of them gives the other person a cold eye, sneer, or sarcastic remark without hesitation, it can be declared that their relationship is unlikely to last long. If one person always holds onto another person, it indicates a lack of basic respect between them, which is a bad habit that every partner should try to overcome. It's worth considering from a different perspective. If you receive a confession or ridicule from the other party, you will inevitably feel hurt, and the impact of this power on the other party is the same. It is important for your relationship to learn restraint and retain the other person's self-esteem.
Encouragement and praise are important
When men and women first fall in love, they will inevitably praise each other's strengths. As the relationship stabilizes and the initial temperature drops slightly, people do less of this kind of thing. Although the two people are still very devoted to each other, they no longer loudly say praise and encouragement. Therefore, it is necessary to encourage the other party more, treat them as a worthy object of appreciation, and tell them that you are very fascinated by a certain characteristic of him, especially those aspects where men are proud but rarely understand others' opinions, such as his good social skills, unknown hobbies, and even his healthy body.
Besides the other person, there are other hobbies
Nothing can make life lose its romantic feeling more easily than having no other interests and hobbies except for a partner. Cultivating a hobby and doing what you love can bring more joy to your partner while enriching yourself.
People have a desire for knowledge, and if you can maintain a bit of mystery, it will be more attractive to them. For example, one's own strengths can be gradually demonstrated. If your strengths are known to the other party from the beginning and become accustomed to them over time, if you intermittently showcase your strengths, it can surprise them continuously. For example, if you have your own shortcomings and assume that the other party dislikes them very much, you can hide them appropriately and gradually correct them.
