Post Date December, 03 2023
"There is no husband or wife who does not quarrel. This is the experience of all" past comers ". However, some couples argue until they both lose, and finally have to wave and say" Bye bye "."; Some couples, however, are able to become more and more in love with each other through quarrels, whetting understanding and increasing their emotional index.
A new survey in the UK has shown that if you use the "secrets" of quarrelling well, it may become a catalyst for the relationship between two people, making your relationship more stable and solid after experiencing "conflict" than before.
The Secret Collection deals with the facts without harming the innocent
When a quarrel occurs, does your brain seem to have a database that allows people related to each other, whether they are parents, friends, colleagues, or neighbors, to be "killed without mercy"?
A simple dispute spread from him because of your disorderly "shooting": his parents didn't invite you to dinner last Mid-Autumn Festival; His buddy in "open crotch pants" is very incognizant and often comes to your house to cheat on food and drink... At the end of the argument, you leave behind a hurtful sentence: "If only I were single!"
British psychologists have pointed out that it is absolutely necessary not to drag out a lot of old things during a quarrel, and not to hit the other party's family, friends, colleagues, and bosses. Otherwise, the battlefield will expand infinitely, and the problem you originally intended to solve will not even be visible.
Psychologists suggest asking yourself three questions 30 seconds before starting a war: First, what is making you angry? 2、 Is this a terrible matter that needs to be resolved through a fight? 3、 Can a quarrel solve a problem? After answering these three questions, you will find that some things are simply not worth arguing about.
Secret Collection 2: Retreat as Progress, From Prosecution to Communication
"Sugar coated bullets" are sometimes more powerful than live ammunition, because men usually eat soft rather than hard. The "highest level" of the art of quarrelling lies in not pointing at his nose and making a lion roar, nor making a vicious agreement with him, but in "using softness to overcome hardness.".
Sandy planned to introduce her husband to her high school classmates at a classmate's party, but her husband was an hour late and simply greeted Sandy's classmates before leaving the meeting in a hurry.
When the party ended, Sandy's strong anger could no longer be suppressed. She began to accuse her husband of being so arrogant! Those are my sworn friends I haven't seen in five years. How can you be so indifferent to others
"But my husband didn't feel like he had done something wrong: 'Why should I listen to you at your disposal?' A civil war erupted like this.".
Psychologists suggest that in this situation, rather than angrily accusing him of being too rude to your friend, it is better to calmly reason with him. For example, "If you disappear without even saying hello, it's really difficult for me to handle it because there are many topics to talk about you with everyone."
In this way, you will become a victim rather than a hysterical accuser, which will also lay a good foundation for further communication between you.
