As is well known, after buying a new car, it requires frequent maintenance to maintain and extend its good performance. Why doesn't sexual life need to be maintained? Of course we do! Hugh Campbell once proposed a list that suggests doing corresponding things every day, week, every few months, or year to maintain optimal sexual activity. Not all the details in the list need to be achieved, but you can choose one or two for each item according to your own hobbies, or simply come up with some solutions for yourself.
What to do every day:
The foundation of maintaining a good sexual life lies in mutual care and consideration, and some small details can make the other party feel your understanding and care.
1. If you always wake up early and take care of things before the other person wakes up, you can enter the bed again before the other person wakes up, chat with them for a while, and hug them for a while.
2. Do even small things for the other party: for example, before the husband shaves, for example, before the husband shaves, the wife goes to wipe off the water vapor on the mirror; A few minutes before the wife or husband wakes up, the other party gets up to make coffee, hot milk, or change the water in the vase.
3. My wife went to wipe away the water vapor from the mirror; A few minutes before the wife or husband wakes up, the other party gets up to make coffee, hot milk, or change the water in the vase.
4. Sharing something: for example, opening a bottle of beer and sharing it with two people, rather than opening each bottle separately; Buy a newspaper and circulate it between two people, rather than buying one copy each.
5. Embrace: Regardless of the situation, embrace each other as soon as you enter the house, creating a loving atmosphere in the family.
6. Make the other party "right": Don't blame the other party for everything, it's all their fault. Sometimes you have to let him or her off guard, and don't always judge the other party's decisions. This is not right, and that is also not good.
Weekly:
Love requires time, and at least one conversation of no less than two hours should be arranged every week to facilitate mutual communication. Go out for breakfast or dinner together. What matters is not food and drink, but the opportunity to spend time together.
7. Regular appointment: "Wednesday night is our happy time", make a reservation in advance, don't meet anyone else, don't do anything else, go to a movie or theater together, or go to a restaurant to have delicious food together, or do other things that both of us enjoy.
8. Walking to a certain place together: Taking a bus or a taxi may not be "private" enough, and driving on your own may be too fast. It's better to walk and talk with the two within the walking distance target. Monthly: You can do things that are not within the regular range once a month. Dr. Susan Hendrick, a psychology professor at Texas Tech University in the United States, said, "Doing something different from the past, or doing something in a different way from the past, can bring new feelings to the other person and revive the existing love
9. Changing sexual activity venues: If you usually have sex in the kitchen or in bed, you can switch sides and try chatting in the kitchen or in bed.
10. Changing roles: If he/she always washes the dishes, you can compete on a certain Sunday.
11. Go wash the dishes; If it's always her cooking dinner, one day you can show off your skills and cook dinner once.
Monthly to every 3 months:
In any interpersonal relationship, there may be friction. If you are not careful, you will inevitably vent your dissatisfaction on your partner. Afterwards, you need to take some measures to make up for it and bring the relationship back to normal.
12. Temporary separation: Spend the weekend with your good friend and let your partner visit your brother. Not being together temporarily will make both parties more nostalgic.
13. Make a deal: Throughout Sunday afternoons, the husband always watches football, the wife hates it, and the TV is also occupied. On a certain Sunday, the wife can agree to watch a football match on TV with her husband, provided that he gives her a beauty massage.
14. Plan each anniversary: Make every birthday celebration, anniversary celebration, and holiday a celebration of your partnership, thus making love deeper and more intense.
15. Have a deep conversation to make the relationship closer: If both parties argue about something for more than a month and cannot resolve it, it's best to sit down and have a detailed conversation. What is the reason why both parties cannot compromise in order to find a solution. For important matters such as money, sex, one party's responsibility to the other, etc., it is necessary to discuss and compare the views and attitudes of both parties on these matters, what are the differences, and how to unify them. Two people doing something novel together, such as traveling together or listening to a symphony performance. In short, we need to find novel things that both parties are interested in together.
Annual:
You can summarize the past and plan for the future.
16. Conduct a realistic inspection and evaluation, carefully reflect on the ideas, practices, plans, results, etc. of the past year, in order to improve the next year.
17. Read the old love letters again, to reignite the flames of love and deepen the emotions.
18. Write a new love letter, openly and boldly express your love and mutual evaluation, and propose moving plans for the future. After writing it, send it out - even if you live together.