Post Date December, 03 2023
Divorcing a couple often causes emotional shock or psychological harm, and sometimes can also lead to a strong sense of revenge. If this retaliatory mentality is not eliminated or transformed, it may become an uncontrollable act of revenge and cause serious harm.
So, how should divorced men and women eliminate the psychological barriers of retaliation?
Treat divorce rationally and not emotionally
Divorcees should first recognize that the union of men and women is a two-way choice. Now that they have reached the stage of divorce, it indicates that the marital relationship has indeed broken down and cannot be retrieved. After divorce, both parties are already independent individuals and no longer bear the responsibilities and obligations between husband and wife. If we retaliate against each other due to emotional entanglement and hatred during their shared life, it will not only harm others, but also ourselves.
Don't completely blame the fault of divorce on the other party
Divorce is mostly caused by the reasons of both spouses, but sometimes the fault is more concentrated on one party. After a divorce, one party who is not at fault or has minor faults often experiences resentment. Therefore, the parties involved should objectively think more about it. As the saying goes, one slap cannot make a sound. Remember not to completely blame the other party for the mistake, in order to be relieved from the negative retaliatory mentality.
Actively eliminate retaliatory psychology
The parties who have developed resentment and seek revenge due to their divorce often act recklessly and attempt to vent their resentment by breaking cans and throwing them. Doing so is adding to the mistake. The best way is to actively eliminate the mentality of retaliation, such as being able to confide in close relatives and friends about one's unhappiness and vent one's resentment; Or focus on work and career to shift negative emotions.
Choosing a new starting point for a new life
Divorce not only marks the end of the marital life of both men and women, but also symbolizes the beginning of a new life. Divorcees should have confidence in the future; As long as you have sincerity and love, you will definitely regain a new love life and gradually improve your mood and health in the new life.
