Psychological research shows that women's performance of sexual desire and methods of attracting the opposite sex are very similar to men's in fact. You can use the following similarities and differences between men and women to make yourself more attractive and attractive to women.
1. Find common flirting hints
American sociologists mentioned that from the deepest part of the Amazon forest to the coffee shop in Paris, all women who are interested in you convey very similar hints. If a woman is interested in you, first of all, she will smile at you and then wink at you. Then she will naturally stare at you with her eyes wide open, and then close her eyes and turn her head away to look elsewhere.
Sometimes she would cover her face with both hands and giggle. German behaviorists also believe that this series of flirting gestures is a courtship trick evolved by women from ancient times to the present. You can also use this to attract women you don't know.
2. Pursue people with your beauty
Men and women will also be attracted by people with similar charm. Although we all like to watch Zhengmei, sometimes it's not a good thing to go over the level and play weird. If you associate with a person with similar looks, you can basically avoid two things:
First, if the other person looks better than you, you will worry that she is easy to have an affair outside;
Second, if she is not as good-looking as you, you will feel that you should be able to find a better one.
3. Keep the best condition at all times
American sociologists have found that appearance and wealth are always compared. That is to say, beautiful girls usually marry rich but ordinary looking people. Since then, this discussion has become the current social trend.
In recent years, research has found that men who take photos with Bentley are more attractive than those who take photos with Ford; The photos taken with luxury houses are more attractive than those of other ordinary houses. Why is charm so inseparable from money?
Because from the perspective of evolution theory, women need to find a partner who can satisfy their material life to ensure their survival. How to satisfy women's desire is the most indispensable thing in every stage of love.
4. Grow a little beard
Some people say that growing beard is no longer popular, but research shows that it is not. According to the Australian study in 2013, the most attractive beard length is ten days after shaving, which is a bit long beard residue. In addition to showing maturity and masculinity, facial hair is also closely related to status and ambition.
A little bit of long residue is the most attractive, and it doesn't need to spend too much energy sorting.
5. Make yourself look mature
Psychologists call this George Clooney effect. According to the results of a 2010 experiment, most of the 3770 female subjects prefer older men.
As women become more financially independent, they love mature men more. British research has found that the more independent a woman is, the more confident she will be when looking for a mate, and the more powerful and attractive a man will be. This is why it is often seen that mature men match young women, because the essence stage of women is from adolescence to menopause, and this period is just the time when men accumulate social status and wealth.
6. Exercise muscles (but don't exaggerate)
Research from the University of California in the United States shows that women like to have short-term relationships with men with muscles. What does this feature represent from the perspective of evolution? Muscle represents a strong survival ability or a high probability of successful reproduction. However, it should be noted that men with less developed muscles are not necessarily regarded as long-term partners by women.
7. Be friendly
A strong and powerful discovery in psychology is the halo effect, which is a kind of unconscious prejudice. In short, it is to generalize. Kaufman, an American psychologist, believes that the effect of the halo is extremely extensive. A 2014 Chinese study showed that people with positive personality traits will be more popular than those with negative personality traits, just like kindness and honesty to bad intentions and meanness, people will definitely like the former. Although external beauty and ugliness are one of the criteria for judging a person, internal beauty and ugliness are equally important; For example, having a kind heart can make you look stable and reliable.
8. Share emotions
Compared with the 1950s, the taciturn family pillar was regarded as an ideal model; Now women like men who are willing to tell their feelings.
American psychologist said:
When women find that men are vulnerable, they will have strong psychological and physical desire; Showing a weak side will not reduce masculinity, but will greatly increase the score. But this is not to make you mad at women to complain, but to let them see your soft side at the right time. Men with high EQ tend to be more popular and have a really stable mood. They are more suitable for long-term contacts than those who are closed and unwilling to tell their feelings.
According to a 2010 cross-cultural study, research subjects from China, the United Kingdom, Germany and the United States found that men wearing red clothes are the most attractive to women. This is a symbol of social status that has existed since the Roman era. We call this most powerful man the man in red. Of course, women wearing red clothes have the same effect.