People often find it difficult to imagine that men and women in their later years still have sex appeal, sexual demands, and sexual relationships. Indeed, outdated cultural concepts play a significant role in this illusion. The tendency commonly held by young people to deny human activities in the elderly is even more profound. The first obstacle in the human life of the elderly is precisely the outdated concepts that the elderly themselves possess.
How should elderly people view their sexual life
For elderly people, especially elderly women, the most important thing to pay attention to is not to oppress their sexual demands. Due to the influence of old ideas, many women in our country believe that after menopause, they must consciously and voluntarily end sexual activity. Otherwise, it should not be considered as a lack of seriousness. Older women still have sexual desire, and some may increase after menopause. This is not a bad or ugly thing, but a harmonious sexual life for couples. Therefore, women not only need to suppress their sexual demands, but also make their husbands understand and cooperate. Even elderly women who already have sexual apathy can eliminate psychological repression and restore their youthful sexual life with the guidance of a sex doctor and the assistance of their husband.
Many elderly people, especially women, often feel inferior due to aging appearance and lose many opportunities to enjoy sex. Aging is a natural law of development, and no one can escape it. Inferiority complex is an excessive punishment for people. For families and elderly couples, their rich eternal charm comes from the beauty of their hearts, the sweat paid in the process of building a family together, and a harmonious and happy sexual life.
Although many elderly couples have a happy sexual life when they are young, as they enter old age, one or both of them succumb to the local contempt for the elderly and suppress their normal emotional expression, prematurely ending their sexual life. In addition, many elderly men and women encounter suitable partners after losing their spouses, but due to the strange old ideas in their minds and the pressure of feudal forces, they miss out on the opportunity to fall in love at dusk and secretly endure mental and physical pain. These are the results of not establishing a correct viewpoint. The sexual requirements of elderly people are normal physiological needs, and they have the right to remarry and enjoy sexual life. Elderly people should abandon the constraints of old traditional concepts and strive for their rights with great brightness.
From a social perspective, the concept of belittling the elderly and praising the ideal life vitality of youth, health, and physical charm is so prevalent that many elderly people feel that no matter what sexual demands they have, they are abnormal. People who are sensitive to this kind of upbringing pressure may feel guilty and embarrassed when experiencing sexual excitement. In some cases, the influence of cultural awareness is very strong, making elderly couples more likely to avoid sexual contact and follow their imagined norms of behavior. Avoiding any form of sexual contact may reduce opportunities for emotional communication and intimacy. Fortunately, the issue of elderly people in China is receiving increasing attention, and discussions on sexuality and aging are shifting towards a more open, scientific, and accurate direction. In the past, due to parenting bias, sexual behavior was restricted in anticipation of fundamental changes. We can also expect that in the near future, society will accept the activities of the elderly in this regard like the normal sexual behavior of young people. In short, elderly people must first establish a correct understanding and enjoy sex. Otherwise, it is difficult to imagine that elderly people who have a sense of resistance in their minds can also have a harmonious sexual life.
Misconceptions about the human life of the elderly
As people age, the decline in sexual function is inevitable, but it does not mean that elderly people cannot have sex. Mr. and Mrs. Hu have many reasons for this problem. Firstly, they have incorrect beliefs.
Misconception one: getting old, not anymore.
As the body enters the elderly, a decline in sexual function is inevitable, but sexual function still exists. Many elderly men in their 70s and 80s can still conceive their young wives, while elderly women have lost their reproductive function but are fully capable of having sex. Therefore, as long as we maintain a good mindset and establish age-appropriate sexual patterns, elderly people can also enjoy the joy of sexual life.
Misconception 2: Elderly people's sexual life is not serious.
Sexual pleasure is not exclusive to young and middle-aged people, and elderly people also have normal sexual needs. According to foreign surveys and statistics, men aged 60-65 and 65-70 can have 83% and 70% of normal sexual activity, respectively. Many elderly couples simply suppress their needs and lose sexual pleasure and ability due to the influence of traditional thinking.
Misconception 3: Sex is sexual intercourse.
Elderly people may experience reproductive organ atrophy, difficulty in erection, and vaginal dryness during sexual dysfunction. Simple sexual intercourse is often not easy to complete, but kissing, hugging, caressing, and talking also belong to the category of sexual behavior, which can satisfy both men and women's sexual desires and psychological satisfaction.