For remarried couples, they have had a failed marriage before, but their courage to enter the marriage again and pursue new happiness is commendable. But remarried couples must learn from the lessons of their previous marriage and manage their second marriage well, in order to grow old and avoid the recurrence of tragedy. So how can remarried couples live a long life? The following points should be done well.
1. Manage your current marriage well
Since we have started anew, we must cherish our current marriage and manage it well. A failed marriage in the past is not without merit, it can serve as a warning from the past. Men and women who remarry should learn from the lessons of their previous marriage, reflect more, and not make the same mistakes again.
And after experiencing a failure, both men and women learned to endure. Their cultivation and knowledge will also be closer and more mature than in the past, so they will cherish each other very much and less likely to easily harm each other. Moreover, they will no longer lightly talk about the word "divorce", so there are fewer people who argue, scold, and ignore it. So, remarried couples are actually more durable, profound, and aware of each other's mutual care and care, as well as mutual cherish and care, compared to young people who first married and fell in love-
2. Try to avoid communication with your predecessor as much as possible
Ex-wife or ex-husband should try to avoid interacting with them. In the reality of China, it is rare to continue to be friends after divorce. Regardless of the reason, remarried couples should strictly prohibit or as much as possible prevent any contact with their ex-wife or ex husband. Because any form of communication is emotional harm to the other party. You can make phone calls in front of your wife or husband, and it's a last resort to invite your current wife or husband to discuss things together.
3. Taboos of not being concentric in the same bed
Remarried couples are strictly prohibited from sharing the same bed, otherwise the marriage will be difficult to maintain, especially in terms of property and finances. It is important to be honest and open. Since you are married, your lifelong intimacy will be unparalleled, including your children and parents. Therefore, remarried couples should be honest and transparent with each other in terms of income and finances, property, and all income. And everything should prioritize the common interests of both spouses. Since we are married, we must become a whole. If you also keep it, I will also keep it. You will keep it for your child, and I will keep it for my child. This not only harms the child, but also makes him less motivated and self-sufficient; The second is to hurt the other person's heart. The husband or wife is the one who accompanies you for life. You give a minor illness advance payment pension to your child, rather than considering your later years. Over time, due to each other's two hearts and three intentions, you will eventually part ways.
4. Properly handling children's issues
For remarried couples, the most difficult and crucial thing to deal with is the issue of children, which must be handled well. As a married couple, there are very few who have no children. Generally, they will have at least one child, or two children from different families who want to become siblings. There are many contradictions in this, let alone the issue of stepfathers and stepmothers. As a stepfather or stepmother, you must accept him and never indulge him. Remember, you are the elder, they are just the younger, and they must understand how to respect their elders.
5. Be filial to each other's parents
Remarried couples not only need to handle their children's issues well, but also need to show filial piety to each other's parents. When it comes to filial piety towards parents, it's okay if you can't treat them like your own parents. However, it is important to be fair in terms of finances and material possessions, so that even if emotional intimacy cannot be achieved, the other party will not express any dissatisfaction. At least it won't affect the relationship between husband and wife because of their parents, so that's enough.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)