Post Date December, 02 2023
It is said that good men do not worry about marriage, but with the increasing number of "leftover women" nowadays, excellent men seem to be even more scarce. However, if love cannot be treated correctly, an excellent man may also become a 'leftover man'.
1. Perfectionism of "leftover men"
Portrait: His appearance, economy, and other conditions can be considered perfect, and his requirements for his partner are also striving for perfection. When it comes to love, they often adopt a mindset of preferring scarcity over overindulgence, stubbornly hoping to find a "perfect wife" that meets their ideals. His voice is - "After searching for many years, can't I find the most perfect partner
Expert diagnosis: A famous person once said, "perfectionism equals paralysis". This kind of "perfectionism" complex of diamond kings and seniors usually think that as long as they have a perfect lover, they will not have any troubles and problems in their future marriage life, which reflects that they are not confident that they can handle the problems in love and marriage well.
Psychological prescription: Firstly, it is necessary to establish the viewpoint that "absolute perfection does not exist", view the other half and love and marriage from a developmental perspective, and believe that through the efforts of both parties, shortcomings can be improved, making temporary imperfections perfect; Finally, we need to abandon the habit of choosing a spouse based on various conditions and approach others with a more open attitude.
2. The Elegant and Flowering Heart of the 'Left Man'
Portrait: He is favored for his excellence. He travels through the colorful flowers like a butterfly, navigating among many excellent single women and choosing to remain single with ease. His inner voice is - 'I have many girlfriends, each with their own strengths. But when will these uncertain days come to an end?'
Expert diagnosis: In today's society, people are more tolerant of the recognition of "responsibility" in love and marriage, and this type of promiscuous man also knows that all the beautiful advantages cannot be concentrated on one person, so they experience love by making various types of girlfriends. This reflects their confusion about love and marriage, not knowing what kind of spouse they need.
Psychological prescription: To settle down, promiscuous men need to first understand what they are pursuing or prefer, such as whether they like the other person's beautiful appearance or intelligence, and then choose the most suitable candidate from many girlfriends. And these promiscuous men also need to re understand the meaning of the three words' sense of responsibility '. They should consider love and marriage more sacred, and not easily do things that harm each other. Once they make a promise, they must keep it, which is the most basic philosophy of love.
3. Leftover Man Liberal
Portrait: He has a stable and high paying job, enjoying superior living conditions, which are enough to make them happy in a single world. Although they have also considered marriage, they have a greater love for freedom. His voice was - 'I don't want to enter the siege of marriage, not only because I'm afraid of losing my personal space, but also because I don't know how to get close to another person.'
Expert diagnosis: According to reports, 50% of eligible men and women in France are unwilling to get married because they are accustomed to living a single life, and a similar situation is also happening around us. They become too obsessed with their personal world, which creates communication barriers in their interpersonal interactions, making them simply "leftover" to the end.
Psychological prescription: Being single has the freedom of being single, and marriage also has the joy of marriage. Don't be too persistent and unwilling to give up the happiness in front of you, because every state of life has its attraction. To understand that there are many necessary stages in life, and to do what should be done at each stage, in order to become a fulfilling and complete person.
(Intern Editor: Zhao Minqing)
