Post Date December, 02 2023
We all have friends who never pay attention to football, start dating new people, and suddenly never miss the game every Sunday. What do you think of those who finally give up smoking as a rest but say they have nothing to do with their new non-smoking girlfriend? Is this just a coincidence or is something else at work?
Reliable relationships are dynamic and change with time and new situations. But do people in reliable relationships also have vitality? Have you ever changed your relationship?
Research shows that people are very affected by the things around them, not only in behavior: a growing individual with scientific evidence shows that when they are a relationship, people's self-concept changes on the surface.
Assess your own self-change and understand others' self-change. Here are the things you need to know:
Falling in love promotes self - change.
The experience of falling in love is very enjoyable, perhaps because love can enhance a surprising degree of self-change. You move from yourself to a new you. A self concept includes all aspects of your partner. Your partner's achievements or pain are like what you have experienced, and your preferences become his or her preferences. Your self-concept integrates all aspects of your partner.
Some people are more vulnerable to self-change than others.
We are all affected, but some of us are affected by the people we love. Evidence shows that individuals who are highly dependent on the attached rate (for example, they are afraid to abandon and question their self-worth) tend to have a highly adaptive self-concept in the relationship.
Healthy relationships require self-development.
If you have ever thought of working with others to make you a better person, then you are close to self-development. Self development refers to positive self growth; Today you are a richer person with more positive aspects than the "better half" you met.
An unhealthy relationship may make you a worse person.
Self-growth does not always mean gain or behavior in a positive character. Sometimes self-growth will pull you into unhealthy habits or behaviors, making you more anxious, complaining, rough or injured. The potential negative changes in the relationship reveal the importance of your partner choice. In entering a relationship, you will risk becoming the kind of person you may not want to become.
Healthy relationships can reduce bad habits.
In addition to the growth of self-concept, the ego can experience "pruning" or unpleasant quality reduction. You may have been a loud talker, a nail biting person, or an alcoholic, but being with your partner has changed those annoying or unhealthy habits. Such a relationship based on restraint is considered as a way to improve individuals.
Couple relationships can lead to self-discipline.
Like new love, self-restraint can remove bad habits and may also remove some good qualities. New research shows that sometimes in a romantic relationship, it means losing your favorite aspects. People may become distrustful or unfriendly: when they become more closely connected with their partners, their overall self-concept may lose its positive quality.
Breaking up requires great self - change.
Breaking up can hurt people, but the hurt is real: a lost love means losing a person. Many people experience serious self-confusion ("I no longer know who I am") when their self-concept makes the breakup quickly reduce the impact. When they are used to breaking up, people face difficult work, which makes them want to keep their self-concept partially free from the former who have contact with them, and the task of being accused of establishing a new self.
What is clear is that our self-concept is not as stable as we think. Those who are meaningful to us have a lot of ability to shape the future. We are deeply influenced by those we love, and respond (unconsciously) to their influence and become different people after some time. All these influences reflect the importance of choosing a partner carefully. If a person has the characteristics and personality characteristics you desire, you may change in the direction you like.
