Post Date December, 03 2023
Men mainly consider two orientations when choosing a spouse, one is social orientation: economic conditions, family, occupation, etc; The second is personal orientation: the woman's appearance (appearance, figure, skin color), quality (education level, interests, and cultivation), moral character (moral character, interpersonal skills), temperament (personality, temperament, etc.). Social orientation is a variable factor, and during the Cultural Revolution, people's social orientation when choosing a spouse was vastly different from today's social orientation; And personal orientation is relatively stable, such as looking at appearance first, which is not uncommon in ancient and modern times, both at home and abroad.
Matchmaking criteria
Similarly, the criteria for choosing a mate for males are also influenced by each individual's environment and cultural upbringing. From a large perspective, both manual and mental workers have their own mate selection value orientations that are suitable for themselves. The mate selection of a university professor is by no means the same as that of a porter. However, we cannot say that there is no common tendency, because they are all men, all for the purpose of organizing a family, and thus have basic commonalities, resulting in the following common tendencies - roughly the same desires and standards.
① Good appearance
This includes three aspects: first, appearance and charm; second, body shape and posture; and third, skin color. Men tend to prioritize their appearance when choosing a partner, emphasizing their sexual and physical attraction. If they are not satisfied, they often do not want to discuss it again, which is different from female mate selection. A woman may not look at the man at first glance, but she often considers other aspects related to him, such as a wealthy economic income and a satisfactory family situation. The enviable social status of men themselves, and even the fact that they have a strong affinity with their mothers, are taken into account. Therefore, they do not refuse the man at all and are willing to engage in exploratory contact, which may lead to a marriage in the future.
② A gentle and virtuous character
This emphasizes the natural beauty of women's temperament. In terms of personality, women generally tend to have an "emotional social orientation", while men tend to have a "work achievement orientation". The so-called gentleness and virtue, specifically speaking, refers to being gentle and considerate in the relationship between husband and wife; In dealing with people and things, be gentle and elegant; Be virtuous and magnanimous in treating your mother, son, and daughter.
③ Strong demand for sex
Compared to women, men tend to focus more on sexual attraction when choosing a partner. This is consistent with the first point of 'good appearance'. Someone has conducted experiments on men in mate selection. As soon as they close their eyes, they are filled with the best actions, clothing, and facial expressions of the woman, which are beautiful fantasies and emotions caused by sexual impulses. The "desire relieving thoughts" in a large number of dreams of young men directly affect their motivation to choose a spouse, which is a normal physiological reflection and should not be considered vulgar.
④ The woman is younger than herself
Since men pursue physical beauty when choosing a partner. Emotional purity. It is natural for women who are gentle, virtuous, and sexy to hope that their partner is young. Generally speaking, when women are young, they have a strong attachment to men's love, and men are the most easily attracted and conquered by women. The two complement each other and complement each other.
The above are the common trends of almost all men in mate selection, while the following three points are the common trends of most men in mate selection.
⑤ Have knowledge, but know how to be subtle
Men love their spouses and have knowledge, and no one likes silly girls. But the woman herself should know how to hide her knowledge, conceal her wisdom, and not intentionally show off her intelligence. She should keep her duties and understand the world. Although the man kept silent about this, he naturally believed and respected the woman.
⑥ Cleverness
That is to know how to adapt to circumstances, know when, where, and how to obey men, and understand the means of appeasement; When and where can one timely display one's wisdom and make men admire oneself. Understand to listen to men's stories at the right time and show a suitable attitude of respect.
⑦ Be considerate of others
If a wife can empathize with her husband's hard work and leniency towards her and her children, and not haggle over everything, and her voice is not stronger than her husband's, her husband naturally likes it from the bottom of his heart.
