Post Date December, 03 2023
I have always been unable to understand why a boy with a girlfriend goes on a blind date.
A few years ago, I heard a friend tell me that he accompanied his best friend to a blind date because his family said that the man had good qualifications. He graduated from Sun Yat sen University and worked as a manager in a financial company in Shenzhen, earning a good salary!
Everyone has an idea that people who work in finance have the ability to turn a stone into gold. In addition, the man looks good, so his best friend is also quite satisfied
After a meal, both parties had a great conversation. The man likes playing basketball, and the woman also likes sports! Also considered like-minded, the man is quite good at enjoying life. He opened a bottle of champagne and talked about it with great interest. He doesn't like luxury things and is more particular about texture, which makes his friend's best friend more fond of him!
He said, 'From the cheerful expression on my best friend's face, I can tell that she is in love with him.'
However, surprisingly, just as both parties finished their meal and were about to get up and leave, a fashionable girl angrily walked in, slapped the man in front of everyone, cursed "scumbag man", and then left.
At that time, we realized that the man was not single and had already taken the woman to meet her parents. But the man repeatedly accepted other people's blind date invitations, all he wanted was to ride a donkey to find a horse and compare goods with three other families.
Later on, the man once found his friend and best friend several times on WeChat, and she said that a person who is always comparing, even if he likes you again, he cannot marry you. Because he has been comparing all his life and never truly devoted himself to someone.
I also have many male friends around me who never care about eternity, only care about what they once had.
Sometimes when I look at their circle of friends, I feel that they love their girlfriends very much, and there is a strong sense of 'mountains have no edges, heaven and earth are together, only then can I dare to break away from you' and be selfless. But if you ask them, 'Have you ever thought about marrying her?'
Their answers are mostly yes, I haven't thought about it yet. Let's take a step first.
Look, sometimes love is so cruel, the more gorgeous the fireworks, the more they only bloom in that second. They took away all the memories of your youth, but did not compensate you with the rest of your life spent together.
You ask him if he loves you, he loves you! But he just doesn't want to marry you.
He cannot imagine the days he will walk with you, he cannot see the future with you, what he wants is the warmth of the moment, but not the responsibility he wants to give you.
Reasons why men do not get married:
Fear of marriage
A man who has been in love for a long time is not willing to marry you because he doesn't love you enough. It may be because he has a fear of marriage and doesn't have the mental preparation to enter it.
In modern society, the divorce demography has soared, and people no longer trust marriage. I used to think that marriage could last and keep the other person by my side, but now various temptations are everywhere, and both men and women can't resist the temptation to cheat. Sometimes men start to fear marriage when they see their friends getting married and leaving.
Fear of commitment
Don't think that men are brave enough, in fact, men are also cowardly. Many men are afraid of promises and are afraid of taking responsibility for their promises. The cells that do not want to be responsible are basically the same as male hormones, rooted in male genes, with the difference being that some men have more and some men have less.
Marriage means commitment, it means being kind to this person, treating her well, and spending a lifetime with her. This promise is too long-term, like a shackle that binds him, and men don't want to spend their entire lives so quickly.
Afraid of changing one's lifestyle
People are not very willing to change their accustomed lifestyle. If you don't understand, take a look at the colleagues around you who complain about their work every day but still haven't switched jobs. Because I have been used to it for many years, it takes some time to readjust to a sudden change, and many people do not want to casually change their lifestyle like this.
Getting married means that these two people want to live together, and it is more likely that they are living together as a family. Issues such as mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, and personal life have come one after another. You need to adapt to the other person's bad habits. In love, everything seems to be good for the other person, but after marriage, it's not necessarily the same.
I don't love you
If none of the above are the reasons why your boyfriend is unwilling to marry you, then there is only one reason, which is that he doesn't love you at all. People's sense of responsibility is getting lower and lower, and what used to be consistent is now like a laughing stock. Whoever says that represents old-fashioned.
If a man loves you enough, he will never escape. He will be more nervous than you, hoping to bring you into the palace of marriage and make you the only one of himself. If he loves you enough, he will take on all the responsibilities and love you for a lifetime.
Please don't evade this topic. Nowadays, many men hold a playful attitude towards relationships and have no intention of getting married. If you find that your man is such a mixed world demon king, I advise you to break up early and find your own happiness. Although such a decision is painful, it is more reliable than wasting one's youth.
