Post Date December, 03 2023
In order to achieve mutual affinity and intimacy between husband and wife, it is necessary to understand the psychological needs of both parties, so as to achieve harmony and satisfaction. The famous American psychologist summed up the psychological needs of human beings, and concluded that the harmony between husband and wife must meet the five psychological needs of both sides.
1、 The need for respect
People's self-esteem has existed since childhood. Once it is damaged, it will be painful. If you are respected, you will feel gratified and satisfied. Mutual respect and trust between husband and wife is the basic guarantee for deepening love and career success. Any practice of reprimanding or belittling your lover will damage the self-esteem of the other party.
2、 The need for autonomy and performance
Everyone wants to act according to his own ideas and will. This is the need for autonomy. Everyone hopes to show himself in front of others, give full play to his talent as much as possible, use his wisdom to create considerable labor results, and satisfy his performance psychology. Couples should often make each other happy, surprised and fascinated by language or behavior, and then appreciate themselves.
3、 The need for communication
Society is the source of people's life. The practice of forbidding a lover to associate with others can not only guarantee the specificity of love, but also destroy the psychological balance of the other party, feel tired of family life, and have an aversion to the lover, which can only lead to the breakdown of marriage.
4、 Hobbies and emotional needs
Everyone has different hobbies, so they should try their best to meet each other's psychological needs and provide convenience for each other. Emotional needs are centered on love, and lasting love will give the other party the greatest psychological satisfaction. Otherwise, the sense of loss will arise spontaneously, and dissatisfaction, annoyance and resentment will follow.
5、 The need to vent
When a lover is unhappy, he always wants to find someone to talk about it. The object of this kind of catharsis is, of course, their lover, and both husband and wife take each other as the best object of catharsis. Therefore, neither party should blame the other party for being narrow-minded or nagging. Instead, we should take the initiative to accept the other party's catharsis, and further comfort and guide them to relieve their inner pain, so that the other party can be freed from the inner contradictions and establish a new psychological balance. In this way, the inner pain will disappear and the relationship between husband and wife will be further strengthened.
