Post Date December, 03 2023
As the saying goes, a hundred generations of cultivation come to the same bed, and a thousand generations of cultivation come to sleep together. Being a couple is a kind of fate, but the Seven Year Itch is a curse that makes many couples feel scared. To break free from the seven-year itch and maintain a close relationship between couples, it is necessary to adhere to four principles. A good marital relationship depends on each other's maintenance.
There are four standards for a good marital relationship
1. Both spouses share common or mutually accepted values.
2. Sincerely pay attention to the happiness and development of your spouse.
3. Be able to seek common ground while reserving minor differences, and tolerate existing differences.
4. Equal enjoyment of various control and decision-making powers.
Three suggestions for maintaining a reasonable marital relationship:
1. Adjusting the Distance between Ideal and Reality
Everyone has their own ideal pattern for marriage and love, and when dreams are replaced by ordinary life, problems or crises arise. Have a clear mind about marriage life. We cannot hope that love always burns at a high level. Some people have likened passionate love to a cup of boiling water, which needs to slowly cool down in marriage until it becomes a cup of drinkable warm water. This is the case with marital relationships.
2. Strengthen understanding and communication between spouses
The biggest problem in married life is not understanding each other's needs. Psychologists have found that 73% of wives and husbands are unaware of their spouses and each other's needs. Psychologists in the United States believe that in marriage, the emotional needs of men and women are different: what men think is important, women may think is not important; And what women think is important, men may think is not important. Therefore, in order to achieve a happy marital relationship, it is necessary to understand the emotional needs of the other party.
Human needs are not fixed, and the standards of marital relationships can also change. When married for 7-8 years, there are significant changes in the standards of marital relationships.
3. Seek help promptly when encountering problems
It is normal for couples to encounter some problems, but as they are not professionals, it is difficult to handle such problems, and there may even be situations where they take the wrong medicine and prescribe the wrong prescription. Therefore, it is recommended to seek the help of a marriage or psychological counselor in a timely manner when encountering marital and romantic problems that make it difficult for oneself to cope with.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
