Post Date December, 03 2023
In daily life, it is no wonder that some couples quarrel when they meet. Many couples have been arguing and arguing like this all their lives, and perhaps fighting has become a part of their lives. However, more people are reluctant to see themselves and their partner often in this state.
Due to personality reasons, Li Ye and Xu Wei often quarrelled when they first got married. Originally, in the hearts of two people, each other is very fond of each other, but in Li Ye's words, two people who love each other are like two planets in the universe. If they do not touch each other, they attract each other, and if they touch each other, they will almost break into pieces.
Later, due to work needs, her husband Xu Wei was transferred to work in Shanghai. Originally working in Beijing was not very smooth, Li Ye also wanted to go to Shanghai with her husband, but when Li Ye thought of the scene of quarrels every day when she met, she deliberately said that the work here was very good and she didn't want to go to Shanghai. In this way, she and Li Wei began to live apart from each other.
During the separation period of more than a year, my husband often called her, and the two people occasionally got together on holidays such as "May Day" or "National Day". The time spent together was warm and romantic, and both of them felt very lonely after a long separation. However, whenever her husband proposed that Li Ye also come to Shanghai, Li Ye would refuse, because she was afraid that such a warm and romantic relationship would once again degenerate into constant quarrels between each other in the dull years of being together for a long time.
In response to the above case, relevant psychological experts pointed out that Li Ye's fear of spending a long time together with her husband Xu Wei and her preference for a brief get-together life is a false psychological attitude towards "marital friction issues after marriage.". In fact, most of the lives of newly married couples involve quarrels, but only differences in frequency and intensity. Newlyweds should view such issues with a rational vision and consider that friction at this stage is normal. Many newly married couples have found the right solution to their problems by rationally seeing the root causes of their friction.
Therefore, newlyweds should not take evasive measures to solve problems due to friction issues at this stage, face up to the problems at this stage, and do not be afraid to spend a long time with lovers. They should be good at finding problems and solving problems in this long-term relationship.
In fact, a brief get-together can only bring temporary warmth and romance to each other; While there are many difficulties in facing problems when dealing with them for a long time, only staying together for a long time is the only magic weapon that can eradicate problems.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
