Does my boyfriend use me as a spare tire when he has been flirting with his ex-girlfriend

It has been more than a year since I met my boyfriend. I knew that he had an ex-girlfriend of 7 years before dating. My boyfriend loved her deeply and hurt her deeply.

I asked my boyfriend if your ex-girlfriend came back to you, would you come back? My boyfriend said no, he no longer believes that girl.

But after we had been dating for three months, the girl came back to find her boyfriend and said she regretted it. Then my boyfriend broke up with me.

But two weeks later, the woman began to hesitate again. She and I now have a man she can't leave and a man she can't part with. She also doesn't know how to choose, so she didn't break up with her current boyfriend and didn't promise to be with my boyfriend. Later, my boyfriend came back to me and I accepted him.

But in March of this year, my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend came to my boyfriend again and asked to get back together, but this time he didn't agree with her. However, they also often have text messages or QQ contacts, care about each other, and say how beautiful they were in their dreams. In the text message, their girlfriend said that she did not love her current boyfriend, but could not leave him. My boyfriend is flirting with her like this.

I have found such things twice. I quarreled with my boyfriend, drank and took sleeping pills, and was finally sent to the hospital for rescue. I told his mother about it. His mother was also very angry and said something about him. He assured me that he would not be in contact with me again. I believe it too.

But in July this year, when we changed our mobile phones, I accidentally saw the ambiguous text messages between them, and the woman's birthday boyfriend also met her and gave her a gift. At that time, I felt like I was crazy. I called my boyfriend into the car and told him to break up. He didn't agree and threatened me to jump off the building if I broke up.

I later asked him to call the woman and said that they would not contact again. The woman was very angry. I also said a few words to her on the phone at that time. I said that if you dare to pester him again in the future, I will never let you go. The woman also wanted to record what I said and tell me that she is not afraid of the legal society now. The phone hung up. Later, I called my boyfriend again, scolded him, and told him that he would tell her that he would not contact her in the future, which made her very disappointed.

Later, I found that my boyfriend still had that woman in QQ. I deleted her. My boyfriend promised not to contact her anymore. I haven't found them in contact recently. We are getting married soon. The wedding photos are also taken and the banquet is booked.

But now I often quarrel with him because of this matter. This matter left an indelible shadow in my heart. I don't know how I can get out of the shadow. My heart hurts! It hurts

My boyfriend told me that the woman doesn't think she has done anything wrong. She thinks my boyfriend loves her, so everything she does now is right. I'm too incompetent to hold her boyfriend's heart.

In addition to this matter, my boyfriend is very kind to me, cares about me and helps me everywhere. Without these things, I would have left him long ago. I still hate very much now, and I'm too entangled. Alas! What should I do?

reply:

From your description, your boyfriend has feelings for you, but he also seems unable to put down his ex-girlfriend. Most of the time, men are greedy animals and can't withstand temptation. They are prone to wander around when two women take the initiative to give up their arms. Therefore, how to let your boyfriend make a choice between you and his ex-girlfriend, let him firmly choose to stand on your side, and test your wisdom and charm. After a series of twists and turns, your boyfriend has chosen to stand by you, but he has not completely cut off contact with his ex-girlfriend, either because of reluctance, or because of greed, or because of unbearable, but he has told you with an attitude that he does not want to leave you, since it has reached the point of marriage, and now that he has purchased a wedding dress and reserved a banquet, you should be serious before walking into the red carpet Thoroughly and clearly warn your boyfriend: you must give me a break and treat me wholeheartedly, otherwise I will not accept to marry you. Even if you are still connected with her after marriage, I will not hesitate to choose divorce. Warn him or knock him, which is a little reassurance. In a word, if you love him, don't want to leave him, and want to marry him, then you dare to take risks. Marriage is like this. It is not only the world of two people who can harvest sweet happiness, but also all kinds of disputes and troubles after marriage. Maybe your ex-boyfriend will never forget his ex-girlfriend in his whole life, even secretly contact her, or betray you at some time. This kind of risk is not without. The key is to see your own risk resistance and tolerance. So, learn to be responsible for your choice, and learn to manage your life and feelings!

Finally, I just want to send you one word: open your eyes before marriage and close your eyes after marriage. Good luck!