Post Date April, 15 2023
In life, when men talk the most, it should be during the period of passionate love and newlyweds. So, now many women have to sigh: once he had a very developed language cell and could often talk freely, but now this situation no longer exists because this man has become increasingly silent.
1. Use silence to protest against gossip
One obvious difference between men and women is that women like to establish and strengthen relationships through conversation, expressing concern for each other; What men prefer is to directly express their specific thoughts. Women naturally enjoy chatting and can easily turn into chatter. Whenever this happens, men tend to handle it rationally - silently. Men do not directly refute, nor do they verbally reprimand. Many times, it is because of this that women fall into a vicious cycle. Women cannot tolerate men being silent all the time, and they have more to say and express, making men more silent.
Men choose to remain silent. On the one hand, they use silence to express their emotions, thoughts, and attitudes at the time, and on the other hand, they deliberately use silence to maintain their distance from each other. Married men are more accustomed to communicating their emotions and admiration with their hearts.
2. Using silence to regulate the body and mind
The pressure on men is unimaginable to women, as their responsibilities to their families, wives and children, parents, and work all create a strong psychological burden on men. And since childhood, men have been taught to be strong and stand tall.
Faced with pressure, setbacks, helplessness, and fatigue, women can choose to cry to vent their emotions. Most men cannot relieve their stress through tears. So many times, when men face pressure, they choose to remain silent and reflect and regulate their body and mind in silence.
When a man drags his heavy footsteps back home, sits on the sofa without saying a word, and turns a deaf ear to your words, you must not think recklessly, make trouble out of nothing, and let alone dictate. Perhaps he has just finished a conversation with a client and is exhausted, or he is facing setbacks in his life and career, feeling hurt, exhausted, and exhausted. The silence at this time is for recuperation and adjustment.
At this moment, don't be too eager to care about what happened to him. Just let him spend an hour quietly and say "goodbye" to his daytime work. After that, timely care will make him deeply moved by your thoughtfulness and tenderness.
A special reminder here is that when a man is physically and mentally tired, if he is still interested in watching TV, do not turn off the TV while he is watching news or football games, and then say with concern, "If you are tired, rest early." Generally, men are more concerned about politics and football games, and your concern will only have the opposite effect.
3. Use silence to strategize
Perhaps you will find that while talking and laughing, he suddenly became silent; The house was bustling, but he sat on the sofa in a daze.
In fact, at this moment, silence and daze are just the appearance of a man's expression. Perhaps his mind is thinking of some strange idea, or thinking about some strange problem, or something has triggered his inspiration.
At this moment, any caring, thoughtful, and kind words are nothing more than disturbing noise to men. They don't want anyone to pull him out of his contemplative state, let alone anyone to interrupt or disturb him. At this point, it's better to be a silent attendant, and when he finishes thinking, he will naturally be open to you.
4. Using Silence to Treasure Privacy
When women sometimes interfere with men's privacy, men often choose to remain silent and respond. Because they know that saying too much means losing, which is also to prevent her from controlling and supervising herself. Without any trace of pursuit, his world can be much quieter.
Men believe that as long as they don't say it, women won't notice, and things will become much simpler. Men fabricate lies to conceal things. I drank a few bottles of beer in the evening, had an affair during my business trip, and just received an additional bonus. A man's silence is another form of concealment. In crisis situations, men can become extremely self enclosed. If a woman keeps nagging at this time, a man will be even more angry.
For sensitive topics such as past relationships and sex, men often remain silent out of goodwill because they also need a sense of security, hope for security, and dream of showcasing their most perfect selves in front of women.
5. Men need to disguise themselves
Male psychology researchers point out that men's world is full of competition, which requires distance, masks, and calculation. The survival of men faces many cruel challenges. Women will feel that there must be many secrets hidden in a man's heart, so curiosity continues to advance the depth of exploration. To make a man open his heart in silence, the first thing is to give him a sense of security. You can use the enthusiasm of women to comfort him. Alternatively, choose to listen quietly to his narration, objectively evaluate as much as possible, and seek solutions together with him.
(Intern Editor: Huang Qianyi)
