Post Date December, 03 2023
On the same issue, men and women may draw diametrically opposite conclusions by focusing on different aspects. During the dating process, men and women have different psychological experiences and exhibit vastly different behaviors from the beginning of the date to the gradual establishment of the relationship. Do you know what men are whispering in their minds when dating?
Most afraid of being rejected for the first time
With the development of technology, we should have more time to fall in love, but the fact is that urban men and women not only need to work longer hours, but the distance between their place of residence and work is also getting farther and farther. Some surveys even suggest that the time allowed for them to act freely and freely every day is only 22.3 minutes. Women need to take 21.2 minutes to determine what clothes to wear; Men need 18.7 minutes to tidy their hair and shave. The true idle time is 1.1 minutes and 3.6 minutes, respectively. Of course, the above statement is somewhat exaggerated, but you have to admit that dating is a time-consuming thing.
In order to improve the hit rate, 57% of men met their partner through friend introductions, 31% met at bars or parties, and 12% chose to date their work partners. Once a man wants to approach a woman, he often takes the initiative to invite her.
72% of men set their first date at a restaurant and then watch a movie; 27% of people go hiking or exercise, while the remaining 1% think of unexpected ways.
For men, the first date is very important, and there are not a few who hold the mentality of "getting it done once". If his first invitation is rejected, he will lose a lot of confidence and is likely to try his luck with a different woman. It's a big mistake to think that men are all leather candy and have indomitable beliefs. Not every man has strong nerves that can withstand 'destruction'. They are also afraid of setbacks, afraid of being ruthlessly rejected, and easily fall into a conditioned reflex to protect themselves.
Some men would want you to take the initiative
Men will think that if the first date goes smoothly, the relationship between the two can only grow well in the future. On the contrary, if a woman is not touched on her first date, she will disappear and never hear from again.
Due to the habitual assumption that there is no second chance, men tend to appear attentive on their first date.
Therefore, if the woman has the sincerity to accept the man, she should give corresponding hints. If due to your numbness or hesitation, she cannot convey the message "I also think you are good" to the other party in a timely manner, and does not create favorable conditions for the men to take action, perhaps the relationship between the two may not end well in the end.
To put it bluntly, there are more and more pampered men who are too shy and not good at interacting with women. These men often expect women to take the initiative.
Secretly rehearsing a date in my mind
The first condition for intimate contact is mutual goodwill. It's too presumptuous. Being slapped by a woman or pouring wine on the face in public doesn't feel good, does it?
Men are definitely sensitive and scheming old foxes when it comes to probing women's minds. When watching a movie, it is common to pretend to unintentionally touch the woman's hand, or to confirm her reaction by making slight physical contact with her knee close to her knee.
After confirmation, how to implement the action? Extending the appointment time is the top priority. Suggest going for dessert after dinner, taking a walk together, or taking the woman home. Once such an invitation is made, it can basically be concluded that he is a drunken man and his intention is not to drink.
Can we accept a kiss, can we ultimately commit ourselves to each other? A few nights before the date, they were already simulating the action plan from the night of the date to the final conclusion, seeking advice from their close friends, posting online, and discussing when and where to kiss. During a date, they rack their brains to consider the next step in their behavior, so they tend to be absent-minded when speaking and completely unaware of the taste of the food they chew. Even if the women around them have entered a state of heartwarming conversation, they often do not realize it.
Too tense, often misunderstood
What to wear, where to meet, how to greet, where to eat, what topics to talk about during meals, and how to implement the next steps... Repeatedly revising the plan and constantly imagining whether success will be achieved often makes men more nervous and uneasy. No matter what kind of psychological preparation you have or what kind of simulation exercises you do, actual dates may not be as they wish.
So, men often miss out on great opportunities due to misinterpretation of an expression or action. If the woman politely refuses to kiss or engage in intimate behavior, what will the man do to respond? Unfortunately, almost all men do not seek it again, but simply give up.
Of course, there are also some persistent men who refuse to give up. Instead, they try to win over the other party and wait for the opportunity to make a comeback. However, more often than not, men have become exhausted from their mental hard work, and their self-esteem has been hit by rejection, preferring to give up in order not to suffer further harm.
Therefore, when you also have the intention to get along with him, such as kissing or engaging in intimate contact, even if you are not fully prepared for a moment, you should try to explain it clearly and avoid misunderstandings. It's a great pity to lose fate because you don't understand the other person's intentions. In fact, as long as you show your emotions a little bit, everything will come true.
