Post Date December, 03 2023
As we all know, discovering and solving problems is a psychological state that we should uphold when dealing with conflicts. However, people who walk in the "grave" of love sometimes lose their sanity. In fact, it is inevitable for couples to bump and bump. When facing conflicts in marriage, we should uphold a scientific attitude and not let the marriage experience cracks and crises just because of temporary confusion.
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Indian poet Tagore said: "Love is the alias of understanding." Carefully experience this sentence. A few simple words tell the essence of love. Marriage is the ultimate destination and sublimation of love. Since love is the alias of understanding, then marriage should be the paradise of understanding, and all contradictions will lose their meaning in a beautiful marriage. We all know that there is no such thing as a problem free marriage, but if the male and female protagonists can promptly address the issues in the marriage
If pulled out and solved excellently, then such a marriage is happy and truly elevates love.
The following are several methods summarized by the editor to eliminate conflicts in marriage:
(1) Be tolerant and understanding of the other party's' differences'. In daily life, both parties should have a deep understanding of each other's personality, and at least understand their profession and interests. If one party is focused on their career and not neat, we need to be a strong support for them based on tolerance. If the other party's level is poor, we also need to be willing to help them improve their level.
(2) Smart people are good at resolving conflicts. Heterogeneity between spouses is a very common occurrence in marriage, and it is not surprising that conflicts arise. However, it is important to know how to skillfully adjust to achieve complementary effects. Many couples have different interests and values, but they still have a happy marriage, which is the best manifestation of being good at resolving conflicts.
(3) Actively achieve "prevention" and "elimination". Proactively preventing and eliminating conflicts in marriage is a great weapon for a happy and harmonious family. The commonly used methods include: checking one's own shortcomings, looking at their strengths, engaging in more communication and exchange, and actively winning understanding; Pay attention to being considerate of the other party and consider things for them more; Both sides should have no grudges and be filled with deep love in each other's hearts.
(4) Feasible ways to prevent conflicts from escalating:
Humor - This method is a must-have when couples have conflicts and is one of the first methods to deal with each other's anger.
Silence - After a dispute occurs, one party can temporarily remain silent and wait for the other party's anger to calm down before patiently communicating.
Avoidance - In family conflicts, it is often not a conflict between husband and wife, but rather friction between one party and other members of the family. At this point, the other party needs to adopt an avoidance attitude and solve the problem after the incident, which will avoid the complexity of the conflict.
Transfer - "Transfer" is seen as another manifestation of the best policy. When the other party is angry, the other party should immediately and rationally shift. This is not to avoid the problem, but rather a soothing way to solve the problem.
In this way, from the perspective of dialectical thinking, the contradictions that arise in marriage are actually of the same nature as other contradictions in society. Contradictions are inherent in everything and do not shift based on people's subjective will. Institute
For both parties in marriage, please remember: "Proactively acknowledging, exposing, and resolving conflicts in marriage is always the winning weapon of love. Fear, avoidance, and concealing conflicts in marriage can only backfire
What are the jealous tendencies of men and women in passionate love
Women's desire for possession is often stronger than men's, especially in terms of sexual physiology. If a girl loves you 100%, then this man is everything to him. If this man has a slight connection with other women, his girlfriend will have a jealous mentality. I hope that male friends must pay attention to this issue. When their lover shows jealousy, they must not ignore this phenomenon and make them feel that you love them.
Firstly, this is a sign of lack of confidence in oneself: "No, I don't deserve her (him), she (him) is much more interesting than me, the conditions are much better, and I will lose my lover" and so on. Another type of jealous person is completely opposite, this is a person who only knows oneself and is selfish. He (she) needs constant evidence of love. The idea of a potential rival arouses strong suspicion and criticism from him or her, the selfish person. This baseless attack was initially frustrating and tiring, but later turned into an insult and became unbearable.
Is jealousy beneficial or harmful to love?
German psychology experts have answered questions related to this: there has been a belief since ancient times that jealousy means love. A drop of jealousy is undoubtedly a seasoning in relationships between men and women, but it can only be a drop
There are various "remedies" for dealing with jealousy. In the first scenario, when one party lacks confidence in themselves and becomes jealous, the victim themselves can play a huge role. She (he) must strive to convince the jealous person that their jealousy is baseless and help them improve their evaluation of themselves.
If this' prescription 'does not bring the expected effect, then you must patiently explain to the jealous person how this unfounded suspicion can make your love impoverished and hopeless. You can say, 'I haven't done anything wrong to you, I don't love anyone except you: but you should know that your jealousy is unfounded and has no benefit in consolidating our relationship.'.
This conversation should be conducted calmly and confidently, while also being firm and persuasive.
The second situation is much more complex, and no reason can comfort those selfish people. He has a series of refutations about any explanation. This state has crossed the boundaries of reason and turned into arrogance, which is dangerous. In this case, it is necessary to consult a psychological counselor.
What should I do if there is indeed a reason for jealousy?
You must be good at controlling your own emotions and respecting the other person's emotions. You should know that he or she is not your private property, he or she has the right to interact with others, and even love others, but you should know that all of this is far from true love. If you are jealous, there is only one way out: to win love with love and save it.
Scientific treatment of conflicts in marriage can significantly help you solve some of the disputes in marriage. Couples are already the closest people in the world, so we should be more tolerant and communicate in life. The phenomenon of jealousy is also a normal sexual physiological phenomenon, after all, people have a desire to possess, and no one is willing to share their own things with others. When facing this problem, we must not have a mentality of avoidance.
