Post Date December, 02 2023
A couple living together inevitably stumbles and stumbles. When conflicts arise between spouses, some people may make a scene and argue endlessly; Some people remain silent and torture each other with 'cold war'. According to a report on the US health website, among various ways of dealing with marital conflicts, people believe that the most civilized form of 'silence' is actually the most destructive, causing many marriages to break down.
A research team from the University of Washington in the United States surveyed 2.5 million couples and found that 93% of couples try their best to avoid direct conflict when conflicts arise, and have to express dissatisfaction and anger through the Cold War. This approach makes it difficult for both parties to communicate and express themselves, leading to deeper misunderstandings. According to a survey, 80% of divorced couples have experienced a prolonged cold war. The Cold War between spouses includes: ignoring each other, living apart, not having sex, and not caring about each other at all. Psychologists call it 'apple skin like harmony', which means that the exterior looks shiny but the interior is already starting to deteriorate. Researchers have pointed out that if a couple becomes deadlocked for more than 48 hours, negative emotions can overwhelm their original love or favor, and the relationship is prone to deterioration.
It can be seen that when problems arise between couples, do not remain silent. Of course, being emotional and blaming each other is not a wise approach. At this point, it's best to calm down for a while, then show that you cherish this relationship and express your thoughts. You can also write down your feelings and opinions in written form. This way of expression is more rational and calm, can explain the problem thoroughly, and also gives each other time to think. Both parties can have better communication.
