Post Date December, 03 2023
In the blink of an eye, the friends who used to play together have now become women. Faced with the loneliness of being single for a long time and stimulated by various external pressures, many leftover women will hastily get married. But is this kind of marriage really what you want? You should know that marriage is a lifelong thing, not just a joke, so take every step well. For leftover women, if they want to get rid of the situation of being left behind, they need to understand why they become leftover women. Clarifying these reasons is essential for better delisting.
1. Knowing what you want
No matter what we do, we must know where our needs are. Only by determining our needs can we find the correct coordinates and know our position. This is the key to success in doing things. In the matter of love, although we may not be too utilitarian and often lose track of our thoughts and desires, if we introduce someone to our boss today, meet someone from our family tomorrow, and meet someone online the day after tomorrow, and fly like headless flies all day, it is obviously not the correct way for leftover women to successfully move towards marriage.
Before looking for a partner, you may not know their height, height, and weight, but you must know whether their smile is warm; You don't have to understand his professional hobbies, but you must understand his life value direction; You can even ignore his wealth status at all, but you must estimate his abilities and know the bottom line that you can accept. Of course, it's not that you must have precise grasp, but at least you should have thought, pursued, and chosen to struggle. Perhaps you don't have to fully know your true needs, but you must know what or what kind of things you completely, absolutely, and simply cannot accept. In fact, this is also an understanding of one's emotional needs in marriage.
2. Understand how to change when necessary
A considerable number of leftover women are actually left behind not by others, but by themselves. At best, they are called persistent and infatuated, at worst, they are stubborn and passionate, not knowing how to change, always hoping that others will completely follow their own wishes, but not knowing or unable to accept the changes that others demand of themselves. In this way, any small problem becomes a big problem. It is rare for one person to change and the other not to change. If there are some, it is only love, but it is definitely not marriage.
Perhaps you think it's better to be lacking than overindulging in relationships, but 'rather lacking than overindulging' doesn't make you monolithic, nor does it make you feel like you have no one else, but rather teaches you to understand your own needs, know what is your dish, and wait with your needs in mind. There is a state called changing for love, which is a victory that is achieved by persevering rather than wanting. It is a willingness to have love in your heart that comes naturally. But in real life, many leftover women do not understand this truth.
3. Maintain an objective and calm mindset
Emotions are not commodities, they must be sold at a low price. There is no distinction between high and low emotions. Even if there is a price tag, its value lies not in the subject's appearance, age, and status, but in their inner and spiritual world. See if TA is calm and composed, whether she is not arrogant or irritable, whether she is not servile or arrogant... The same goes for leftover women. The emotions of leftover women are in their hearts, and it is not that you can easily find someone to marry when you are old, nor is it that because you are beautiful and have status, you can arrogantly overlook the location of many people. Both of these situations can only lead to the same result, which is that leftover women continue to remain.
Men must beg for a woman with a hot face pressed against her cold buttocks, and women must find a man to marry, and at what age they have to discount their marriage, all of which are harmful aftereffects of marriage. The truth should be: leftover women should strive for self-improvement, awaken, be neither humble nor arrogant, not only have the courage to be prepared to become single, but also need the humility to adapt to the environment calmly. Marrying or not is just a change in life state, not a change in life value.
4. Learn to forget the past
Let's talk about another state of leftover women. In real life, how many women are left behind because they have been addicted to the past and cannot extricate themselves? Women are all "love loving" animals, and "love loving" often leads them to be drawn by old love, indulging them in memories and illusions of the past. This is a very negative and dangerous signal in life. If we cannot forget the past, we cannot treat the present well, and we cannot grasp the future.
Of course, this is not to make you forget your roots and heartlessness, to make you forget the past, but to hope that you can put it down, light up, and live a happy life every day, and show your youthful, beautiful, confident, and happy side to the people around you. Only in this way can you have a good infectious and heterosexual relationship in your current and future love and marriage.
5. Don't be obsessed with love, pay attention to character
There must be love in this world, but it is too rare. It is precisely because it is rare that it proves the value of love... Love is too weak to withstand the test of two things, one is time, and the other is purity. So, you can believe in love, but please don't count on love. Love is something that can never be trusted. If there is another thing in a man that can be trusted by a woman, it is only his character.
A man's character determines his loyalty, determines his financial status in front of you, and determines the base of your marital happiness. It's like being the top 1 in your happiness index, and everything else is just 0.
