[Q]
At one time, my idea was that love is a dispensable thing. Yes, it is good. Life is moist. No, there is no need to force it. After all, I am not unable to support myself. The marriage urging incantation of three aunts and six grandmothers can only be avoided. But who can not bow to reality? I don't mind being single all the way, no one cares, but my parents can't stand the criticism of the neighbors.
I have no choice but to start blind dates. I have no other purpose, and I have an account of marriage. The family introduced several people. Recently, they have the strongest desire to marry. He works in an advertising company himself. He is also a group leader. There are only two people under him, who are older than me, and have been divorced once. This is a very low score. But his family is rich. His father's whole family is engaged in business. His parents have a large number of real estate and basically realize financial freedom. That is to say, even if they don't do anything, they will have no worries about food and clothing for the rest of their life.
His family has met me and is very satisfied with me. They have been urging us to make a quick decision and finish the marriage. But I think he may be the same as me. He is also coerced by his family to make a blind date. I can't know what his intentions are.
Moreover, it seems that he has very deep feelings for his ex-wife. According to his sister, that woman is worthless. A woman smokes and drinks, and puts on her makeup like a woman of customs every day. When she is ostentatious outside, everyone in his family resents her very much. At first, he married the woman under pressure, and nearly broke up with his family. But then his ex-wife's behavior, even he couldn't bear it. He didn't sleep in the middle of the night, played cards until the early morning or even came back all night. The two people quarreled when they met. Moreover, his ex-wife and he had been married for six years and had no children. It seemed that he didn't know why. He had too many abortions, the uterus wall was very thin, and it was extremely difficult to conceive. There was too much pressure at home, and he couldn't stand her idleness. Finally, the two divorced. His sister may have talked a lot to please me, but when I listened to the details, I always felt that he was tolerant of his ex-wife. He never treated me like this once. It is also possible that I have not been with him for a long time, less than half a year.
Perhaps, after marriage, if he fell in love with me, he would double his kindness to me? Should I promise to marry this marriage?
[Answer]
When you choose a marriage, you must not aim for divorce. Therefore, it is necessary to be cautious. Why is his family so anxious about your marriage? The reason is crucial. It is possible that he has something to hide. These things will be nowhere to hide over time. If they are exposed before marriage, the marriage will fall apart. If they are exposed after marriage, you may have to choose patience.
The problem is that you are not ready for marriage because you are not sure about the feelings of the other party. Why do you seriously consider talking about marriage? The most important reason is probably due to their family's economic conditions. Although they are not considered to be a golden son-in-law, "even if you don't do anything, you will have no worries about food and clothing for the rest of your life" is enough attractive.
Everyone likes to rest and hates to work. Think about the problems you may face after marriage. If you don't think about anything and just rush into marriage with good external conditions, you may step into the abyss of misery.