Post Date December, 03 2023
When you love someone, it's difficult to control your thoughts and avoid being influenced by anything. When you see your boyfriend chatting with a girl recently, you will immediately take precautions; When I heard him praise others for their beauty, I began to wonder if I was not good enough; Such things happen again and again, and that's why we are often tormented by our own brains. In the face of such emotions, how can we do to get ourselves out of unnecessary anxiety? Looking down, I believe these practical methods can help you go more smoothly on your emotional journey.
1. Avoid letting jealousy affect you
When you start feeling jealous, many times you start arguing or saying negative things, but those are not really things that matter to your heart. If you can realize this, it's like finding out, "Actually, it's because the girl who happened to start chatting in the bar makes me feel bad about myself." Then you can take the first step to avoid letting jealousy affect your feelings.
2. It's more objective to see things from a bystander's perspective
Imagine if you were not yourself now, but your friend, how would you react when you heard such a thing? Do you feel that the other party can't do this, or do you think that these are just making a fuss? Jumping away from the relationship between you and your boyfriend and trying to observe from a third-party perspective can help you clarify your emotions and face things with a more rational attitude.
3. Reduce paranoia and have confidence in your relationship with him or her
If you think your boyfriend is flirting with another girl, but you're not sure, think about the close relationship you've built up between the two of you these days. Everyone flirts with others, sometimes even unconsciously starting to do such things. Think about how many similar examples they can find, but most of the time it doesn't mean he doesn't love you anymore. On the contrary, his love for you hasn't diminished at all. Rather than falling out with him due to jealousy, it's better to let yourself think about their future first and communicate with each other in a more rational way.
4. Jealousy is actually about arousing illusions that don't exist. Don't take it seriously
"I can't even count with my hands how many times I've been too worried about something that might happen, worrying as if it had already happened and I've been mourning for my grievances, but in the end, that thing didn't come true at all.". "When you suspect that your boyfriend may have a crush on someone else, that doesn't mean they've really gone out on dates, even gone to bed, or even started planning how to dump you.". If you don't have any evidence, it's just your own psychology guessing, don't let yourself fantasize anymore! It's better to go directly to your boyfriend and express your concern, even if it may make him feel puzzled, than to be alone and restless.
5. Is there any other underlying reason for your jealousy
Sometimes the feeling of unhappiness, jealousy, and jealousy is actually just because something makes you unhappy, such as forgetting your birthday or not supporting your career enough. However, instead of talking directly to him about what makes you care, you start to doubt everything and wonder if there's any other reason why he's doing this, or is it because he's in love with someone else that he's ignoring me? But most of the time, he's really just because he forgot or has been too tired lately, and your sudden bombing will only make things worse.
6. Accept the fact that you are being unreasonably jealous and find ways to alleviate this situation
"Because you feel unhappy, it doesn't mean that you have to take action. When you feel angry, you don't have to yell and shout, but rather tell yourself, 'Yes, I'm feeling angry right now.' Let yourself realize your current state, then take a deep breath and wait, observing if there are any signs of gradual easing of such emotions. You can also do the same when facing jealousy.".
7. Past experiences may not necessarily apply to this current relationship
Perhaps you will worry that your partner betrayed you because you have been cheated by the previous one, or because the people around you have had such experience, which makes you constantly nervous. However, each relationship is different. If you cannot face your lover with a trusting attitude, casually throwing him on the bench for inspection, it is not fair to him at all and will only hinder this relationship. There are reasons why every relationship can be separated, but it takes 100% trust and persistence to go forward.
8. Have confidence in yourself, have confidence in him
Many times, we feel jealous because there is always a part of us who feel that we are not attractive enough or that our other half is even better than ourselves. "But this idea is not at all correct. You are now a very worthy girl to love, and even if you have shortcomings, you are still cute and charming, and you are also fortunate to have him around to love you. Don't let those uneasy imaginations or other women he praises while watching TV affect your relationship. Whether he thinks others are cute or not, your beauty and kindness will not become less due to this,", And you are 100% worthy of being loved.
9. The experience of others affects you
Many people will gain experience from their friends. As soon as a man doesn't matter to you, he will go out and steal food. So, when he goes on a date with a friend, you ask his name, gender, and date location. If he says he works overtime, you call his office at 8:00 pm on time to check on his job. Honey, if there is "surveillance" in love, what happiness can this relationship have? "If he really wants to escape, you may not always find it useful to check posts. No matter how beautiful love is, it is necessary to have dignity.".
The exclusiveness and exclusiveness of love lead to our jealousy, which is inevitable. The question is, how do you face your jealousy? Does your jealousy affect your relationship? How do you handle the consequences of this jealousy? Envy is nothing, face it squarely, face it with your partner, solve it, and then, after the rain, the sky clears. In fact, what does the experience of others have to do with you? What do other men do and what does it have to do with your man? Everyone is an independent individual, and there is no need to imitate others in doing these things. This will only destroy your relationship.
