Post Date December, 03 2023
Fathers play an indispensable role in the growth of their children. In the process of family parenting, fathers' responsibility for their own roles is very important, and participating in family parenting should become a compulsory course for fathers. The role of a father should be managed as a career. Let's take a look together:
Father is also a compulsory course for men
In the growth of children, in most families, their education is monopolized by their mothers, while fathers mostly act as "hands off shopkeepers". So, what kind of role should a father play? Mr. Cai Xiaowan is known as the "Talent Satellite Launch Base", and his parenting experience is very convincing because he has trained all six children into doctoral students. The catchphrase of Cai Xiaowan is to manage her father's role as a career.
Don't use 'busy' as a shield
Many fathers always talk about being "busy" and say they have a lot of socializing and really don't have time to educate their children. Cai Xiaowan disagrees with the statement that she has no time to educate children because she is busy. He personally said, "When the children were young, I had to support a family of eight, and life was very stressful and busy, but I didn't delay their children's education. Nowadays, many parents have time for socializing and entertainment, but don't have time to be with their children.
I think the important thing is to recognize the problem, which is the position you place in educating children. If you prioritize educating children, you will definitely have time to educate them
Where to Start Early Education
Cai Xiaowan said, 'Many people ask me, is it because your children have particularly high intelligence that they are so promising?'? Actually, they are all ordinary children. Speaking of the secret, it may be that I attach great importance to children's early education, do more number games, and cultivate their interest in mathematics.
I often use nursery rhymes, poetry, celebrity stories, etc. to provide inspirational education to children. Another point is to cultivate self-learning ability. It's not important to teach children how much knowledge they have, it's important to teach them how to learn on their own. My children have a strong self-learning ability, which is very helpful for their academic performance.
It is also important to value the cultivation of non intellectual factors in children. I often recommend children to read more history books and biographies of celebrities, so that they understand that success comes from perseverance, and great people grow up by overcoming difficulties. These are very important for children's growth.
Hurry up, make the child happy
Many children nowadays have good material conditions, but they are always very depressed. Cai Xiaowan reminds parents that happiness is the true source of success, and to make children happy quickly. He said that when the child was young, their family lived in a small house with an area of 32 square meters and often moved. However, in order to leave a happy memory for their childhood, he transformed the bed into a ping-pong table, which can be used for two purposes. I also bought a performance bike for the children to play with and tried to create conditions to create happiness for them.
Communication between parents and children should start from a young age and maintain close contact at all times, without being forced into confrontation. Some fathers feel that their children do not need education when they are young and can be fully entrusted to their mothers for upbringing. When their children reach puberty and various problems arise, fathers only come forward and use high-pressure methods to compete with their adolescent children, which can easily lead to both parties losing. In fact, there should be continuity in the education of children, and they should be carefully managed so that children can grow up healthily.
It's not difficult to be a good dad
Hu Wei from the Municipal Women's Federation stated that the lack of a father's role is not conducive to the growth of children. There are differences in the perspective, content, and methods of parents' education for their children. Suggest fathers to give their children more time and care. Spend a certain amount of time every day communicating with children, which can be an hour or more.
Try to play with the child as much as possible, touch the child frequently, and let the child know that the father cares about him. For the child, a hug and an encouraging look from the father are the best gifts given to the child.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
