Flowers are similar year by year, but people are different year by year. Time flies, and some men and women born in the late 1970s and early 1980s quickly turn thirty. According to the previous view, before getting married and starting a family at the age of thirty, they are often referred to as "leftover men", "leftover women", "elderly youth", "disadvantaged households"... However, when you look around, there are really dozens of men and women who have not yet married at the age of thirty. They do not have the feeling of "staying alone in an empty house". On the contrary, they all live a very exciting life. Whether in life or career, they can stand alone and have no worries about food or clothing, And for emotions, they are serious, rational, and would rather be lacking than excessive. Looking around, society no longer looks at men and women who are still single at the age of 30 with unusual eyes. People are becoming more and more tolerant, gradually understanding that 30 is not the threshold for a person to pursue happiness.
So, what are 30 year old men and women thinking? What kind of state is their relationship in? Do they expect or fear marriage?
Let's take a look at the love stories of these four 30-year-old men and women. Their story itself may be an answer.
Protagonist 1: Beauty Like Jade
Love stable type
Men and women at the age of 30 are more aware of what kind of life they want, and they understand that life is for themselves, so they are not in a hurry to change themselves for the sake of others.
My boyfriend and I are both people with the prefix 'three'. Both his parents and mine have been urging us to get married for several years, but we are not in a hurry, "said the beauty. She has a beautiful appearance and a delicate figure. She looks only twenty-seven or eight years old, but in fact, she is already 32 years old. Beauty is like jade, "continued, Some of our friends around us used to be very eager to rush for us, asking us to get our certificates quickly while the iron is hot. However, seeing that we are not in a hurry, we gradually got used to it. My boyfriend and I have a stable relationship, and we have already determined that they are the ones who want to go through this life together. However, he and I are both independent people, so we are not in a hurry to get married so early. We want to live a few years of single life first
Perhaps with a stable emotional support, 'beauty like jade' can fully devote herself to work and achieve small success in her career. Currently, she is a middle-level leader in her unit. Beauty is like jade "is very satisfied with her current life. She told reporters that this Spring Festival, she and her boyfriend have already made an agreement to live alone for another year, and the two will get married next year.
Protagonist 2: blue dream
Cohabitation trial marriage type
Men and women aged 30 are more calm and rational when considering issues.
I originally thought I knew someone very well, but after a while, I realized why I didn't understand at all? "" Blue Dream "was very sad, with confusion and confusion written on his face. He has been dating his girlfriend for 3 years, and they have been living together for the past year. Although they had a sweet childhood, it is inevitable that there are still some difficulties, such as whether the cooking taste is according to him or her, whether to eat rice or pasta, whether to turn on the air conditioning or not, whether friends come to borrow money or not, whether to introduce all of their friends to each other, or to leave some personal space, Whether the other party should be unreserved and tolerant when making a mistake or insist on a stance and apologize... All of these tests the tacit understanding between the two. It seems like these trivial things are all testing us, but these small things are enough to disrupt the emotions of two people. Over time, one will think, 'Is this person what they want and really suitable for themselves?' "Blue Dream" admitted that his love is facing a severe test, If it's really not suitable, we will definitely break up. We won't settle for marriage just because we're already 31 years old. This will only harm others and ourselves. Of course, before making a decision to break up, we must have thorough communication and careful consideration
Protagonist 3: Miss Chen
Single expectation type
Men and women aged 30 have more mature ways of handling relationships.
I pursue ordinary and sincere love, being able to understand each other, understand each other, and love each other. I hope this love can have a beginning and an end, holding onto the white head. "Miss Chen introduced her thoughts on love in a text message sent to the reporter.
Miss Chen is currently single, but as she said, her expectations for love are "just average". "I have an independent job and I have no worries about food or clothing, so I don't rush to find a long-term meal ticket to make a boyfriend." Miss Chen said that it is because she is 30 years old that her perspective on love has changed from before, Previously, it used to be good to just think about two people being happy together, but now I think more about it. I hope this relationship can have a beginning and an end, and I can hold onto my son's hand and grow old with him. "Different views on relationships lead to different ways of handling them. If a relationship is placed in front of me, I will no longer be centered around myself, making things unreasonable and making everyone unhappy like before. Instead, I will tolerate and empathize with each other, leaving room for them
Protagonist 4: Xiaofei
Regression based
Men and women aged 30 will no longer make the mistake of 25.
Xiaofei belongs to the category of girls who value both beauty and talent. She entered a quite good foreign company at a young age. Due to her youthful and self centered personality, as well as limited experience, she couldn't resist the attack of a married man in the company and became their lover. When she first became a "junior", Xiaofei felt that everything was okay. There was no marriage, no status, no promise, no future. As long as she could see each other every day at work, even if she didn't speak, just a glance would be enough. But as the days passed and the years flowed, Xiaofei found that her heart could no longer be indifferent to everything. She began to yearn for a home and a man she could rely on at any time. After repeated twists and turns, Xiaofei finally broke up with that man. That year, Xiaofei was 30 years old. After the pain, Xiaofei decided to start a life that truly belonged to her. Previously, I only thought about myself, but now, I think about things from the perspective of my original partner. I realize that I used to be really stupid! And the man who betrayed his wife is also starting to be despised by me, "said Xiaofei. What does 30 years old mean to a woman after the passage of time? Xiaofei said, "If this experience really helped me, it's that at the age of 30, I won't make the mistake of 25 again
Bystanders say
Supporters:
The bird flies in the sky "said:" Once at a friend's gathering, the friend's father said that if a woman cannot get married at the age of 28, she is not a "good thing". This sentence angered me and also angered the young people at the table, because after calculation, most of the people present are still unmarried by the age of 28. There is a significant difference between now and before, with different ages
It is the only hard indicator.
The Happy Whale said, "Let me give you a calculation: at the age of 18, I will attend university, at the age of 22, I will pursue graduate studies, and if possible, at the age of 28, I will graduate with a doctoral degree and work for a few years. After all, I am just emerging from society and still young. Getting married at this time doesn't necessarily mean getting old, does it?
Spring flowers bloom ": Look, recent movies such as" Women Are Not Bad "," Love Call Transfer 2 ", and" Peach Blossom Luck "all tell the stories of women in their thirties seeking love. Some have succeeded, some have been deceived, some have gone through hardships, and some have fallen in love at first sight... So many films are portraying this theme, indicating that in today's society, There are indeed more and more men and women who are still drifting in love at the age of 30. This is already a social phenomenon, so we can no longer view this issue from the previous perspective.
Sunflowers are thriving, "he said." I don't support getting married before the age of 28 because everyone is still immature and has too many unrealistic ideas about marriage. There is a high possibility of regret after marriage, so it's best to consider getting married at the age of 28.
Opposition:
Woman Little A "said: Age is a thing that doesn't matter to men, but it's very cruel to women. Therefore, it's best for girls to find a good man to marry in their best years, just like stocks. When women are young, which is the highest value of stocks, they gradually decline afterwards.
I love eating oranges "says: Isn't there a saying that women of different age groups like different types of men, but regardless of their age group, they all like young and beautiful women, so women still need to marry early.
Parents say: I don't think men matter. It's better for women to get married early, which is determined by human nature. The best age for women to get married and have children is at the age of 25. If they get married at the age of 30 and have children in two years, their physical recovery will not be as good as it was at the age of 25.
Dream chasers say that they say they start a family first and then start a career. I have a firsthand experience. I am 35 years old now and used to earn a lot of money, but because I didn't start a family, I spent my money recklessly and didn't buy a house. I only regret it now. If I could get married earlier, it would be completely different now.