Post Date December, 03 2023
Andy Lau sang, "Let men cry, it's not a sin." However, few men use crying to express and vent their emotions. In fact, anger is a kind of "crying" of men. Because many men's depression is not manifested as sadness, guilt, withdrawal and other common symptoms, it is ignored by people.
Compared with women, male patients with depression are more likely to be reckless, alcoholism, drug abuse, speeding and like confrontation. Unlike women with depression who have excessive self-doubt, they prefer to bully, scare and blame the people around them. For many men, anger is a mask of inner pain, expressing the desire to control rather than control. William Pollack, a psychologist at the Male Center of McLean Hospital in Boston, USA, believes that anger is the way men cry.
For example, there was a very ordinary worker who worked very hard and often worked overtime. Every night, he gets drunk. He admitted that he was a very strange person in the eyes of women and friends. He also has stomachache and rash. He said that if a man acts sad, he will be embarrassed. In him, there is no difference between sadness and madness. In modern society, tears and laziness are men's taboos. In the eyes of men, depression is equal to vulnerability, shame and incompetence, which makes a man appear particularly unmanly and equal to losing himself.
Therefore, some psychologists called for a redefinition of the symptoms of depression and the development of a special depression symptom table for men, such as arrogance and bravado, and the tendency to cry when one is alone; Overdrive and take unnecessary risks; When facing a lover, a little thing can cause nameless anger, etc., which should be the unique manifestation of a man's depression. Some successful men, such as politicians, sports stars and corporate presidents, openly admit that they do have such problems.
The first thing a man who is prone to anger needs to do is listen to the reflection of his lover and his closest friend. They are often the first to perceive your emotional changes. If readers have such men around them, they should also be reminded and told that depression is an emotion that everyone can have, and urge them to see a doctor.
