Firstly, although society recognizes men's sexual deviance more leniently than women's, moral values are still the main criterion for evaluating personal character. Even in developed Western countries with highly open sexual attitudes, private life still influences the career paths and prospects of social celebrities. Moreover, men always value their social roles and career values more, and extramarital love is often just a romantic interlude in their colorful lives. If they can have both worlds and complement each other, they naturally aspire to have both fish and bear's paws, and do not want to swim out of this intoxicating yet perilous vortex. However, once there is a conflict with their reputation and career, they often have the power to balance their interests and bravely retreat, endure the pain of losing love, and rarely sacrifice the reputation of their good husbands and fathers for their lovers. They even bear the charge of violating family ethics and even become infatuated men who ruin their bright future.
Secondly, although men's sexual values tend to be pluralistic, open and fraternal, they tend to be more rational and realistic than women when making decisive choices. They yearn for romantic and exciting extramarital affairs, but find it even more difficult to part with down-to-earth and light marital relationships. Home flowers may not be as beautiful and mellow as wild flowers, but they are still warm and elegant, and often more durable and useful; Although lovers can bring themselves a captivating sense of freshness, this romantic love, although refreshing, lacks a sense of security after all. Moreover, most married couples do not have the expected goal of tying the knot with their lovers when secretly tasting forbidden fruits. Therefore, extramarital love often only adds some joy and relaxation to their overloaded and tense social roles, adding some seasoning and embellishments to their standardized and monotonous life. When faced with the choice of one of the two, most of them would rather give up this desperate romantic love and return to the secular world Come from a calm reality.
Once again, due to the fact that men may not only fall into the penalty area during marital crises, many people only have poor self-control and impulsive behavior, resulting in "falling". Therefore, most of them are only "emotional" and not "emotional" towards their extramarital partners, and they are less likely to fully devote themselves to their relationship. Moreover, in real life, there are far more competent wives than husbands. Husbands with wives in the family do not lack basic physiological and psychological satisfaction, nor do they lack sweetness and happiness. When they have a hot head with their lover or make a promise to "divorce their wife" out of helplessness, they return home to face reality, and often feel guilty and stop talking because their wife is competent in the family role.
In addition, once the East Window incident occurs, the wife often targets a third party and forgives the husband, even using double tenderness to influence him. This makes the husband sweat and regret, even to the point of sudden repentance and "abandoning the new and loving the old". Among them, some husbands may not have the same temperament as their wives, but due to their wives' hard work as virtuous helpers without much fault, or their wives who have made sacrifices for themselves, and now their own status has changed, they cannot bear to harm their weaker wives, or are forced by normative pressure and have no courage to rush out of the marriage wall.