First of all, although society recognizes men's sexual deviance more leniently than women's, moral values are still the main yardstick for evaluating personal character. Even in developed Western countries with highly open sexual attitudes, private life still affects the official career and future of social celebrities. Moreover, men always value their social roles and career values more. Extramarital love is often just a romantic interlude in their colorful lives. If they can achieve the beauty of both worlds and complement each other, they naturally desire to have both fish and bear's paws, and do not want to swim out of this intoxicating but dangerous whirlpool. However, in the event of a conflict with fame or career, they often have the right to balance the current of interests and bravely retreat, endure the painful separation of love. Few infatuated men sacrifice their good husband and father's reputation for their lovers, and even bear the charge of violating family ethics, leading to self-destruction of a promising future.
Secondly, although men's sexual values tend to be diverse, open, and fraternal, they tend to be more rational and realistic in making decisive choices than women. They yearn for romantic and exciting extramarital affairs, but it is more difficult to give up the steadfast and light marital relationship. Home flowers may not be as beautiful and mellow as wild flowers, but they do not lose warmth and elegance, and are often more durable and useful; Although a lover can bring ecstatic freshness to oneself, this romantic love, though refreshing, is too insecure after all. Moreover, most married couples do not have the expected goal of tying the knot with their lovers when stealing the forbidden fruit. Therefore, extramarital love often just adds some joy and relaxation to their overloaded and tense social roles, adding some seasoning and embellishment to their stylized monotonous life. When faced with the choice of one of the two, most of them would rather give up their desperate romantic love and return to the secular world From the calm reality.
Thirdly, because men do not necessarily stray into the restricted area during marital crises, many people simply have poor self-control and "stumble" on impulse, most of them only "flirt" with their extramarital lovers without "feeling", and they are less likely to devote themselves wholeheartedly to their relationships. Moreover, in real life, there are far more competent wives than husbands. Most married couples in the family do not lack basic physical and psychological satisfaction, nor do they lack sweetness and happiness. When they have a fever in their lover's head or are helpless to make a commitment to "divorce", they return home to face reality, and often feel guilty because their wives are competent in their family roles, and stop talking.
In addition, once the East Window incident occurs, the wife often targets a third party and forgives the husband, even with double tenderness to influence him. This makes the husband sweat and regret, leading to sudden repentance and "abandoning the new and loving the old". Among them, there are also some husbands who do not have the same temperament as their wives, but because their wives have endured hardships and acted as virtuous helpers without making any mistakes, or because their wives have made sacrifices for themselves, but now their status has changed, they cannot bear to harm their weak wives, or because of normative pressure, they have no courage to rush out of the marriage wall.