Some people have a one night stand for sex, some people have a one night stand for novelty, and some people have a one night stand for anger towards their partner. There are various reasons for a one night stand, but no matter what the reason is, after a moment of impulse, the rest is hurt!
Deceive oneself
One night stands can only temporarily alleviate certain anxiety and depression, but cannot permanently alleviate them. In other words, 'one night stand' not only satisfies a person's physical desires, but also deceives their soul. Therefore, the idea that men and women will develop feelings and even bring about marriage after a "one night stand" is mostly self deception.
Moral crisis
One night stands can cause many personal crises, such as moral crises, self condemnation of indulgence, especially for those with families. Although one night stands are psychologically a fresh spice of life, they can also trigger self psychological and family crises. Not long ago, a book became popular, titled "Breaking Up After Dawn", which tells the real-life records of 19 urban women's "one night stands". Some of them are addicted to indulgence, while others are temporarily out of control; Some people regret after indulging, while others are indifferent to it.
Physical impact
French sexologist Alain Escher pointed out that men's desires are more influenced by body chemistry and require timely release, while women's desires are more influenced by the brain and need to be fully laid out. So, men seek excitement and freshness in a 'one night stand', while women seek affection and hope. In other words, when men try a "one night stand," the outcome is mostly a dot, with sex as the starting point and also the ending point; And when women try "one night stand," the outcome is mostly a triangle, with the three lines of sex, affection, and self-protection guarding each side.
The famous American marriage counselor Gray has a viewpoint, which is "men drill holes, women dig wells". That is to say, when a man encounters setbacks, his first thought is to escape, just like hiding in a cave and not coming out, and then slowly recovering; When a woman encounters setbacks, her first thought is to seek help, such as sinking at the bottom of a well and waiting for rescue, eager to receive understanding and comfort from others. Therefore, the purpose of 'one night stand' often lies not in sex itself, but in relieving tense emotions. In fact, physiological studies have also shown that when a person is under tension, sexual hormones are activated and sexual desire increases. Perhaps only the conscience of both men and women knows what a one night stand will bring to the parties involved.
Emotional issues
A new study shows that one night stands can cause depression and even trigger suicidal thoughts. Researchers surveyed 10000 people and found that most teenagers with depressive symptoms have had a one night stand. This study suggests that these people are more likely to have suicidal thoughts in their future lives.
Research has found that poor mental health may lead to one night stands, which in turn can worsen mental health.
Dr. SaraSandberg Thoma of Ohio State University, lead author of the study, said, "Several studies have found a relationship between poor mental health and one night stands, but the essence of this connection is not yet clear. Some people always ask what the cause is and what the outcome is. The study provides evidence that worse mental health is more likely to trigger one night stands, and one night stands in turn affect mental health
Teenagers from grades 7 to 12 of 80 junior high schools and 52 high schools in the United States were surveyed and interviewed again between the ages of 18 and 26.
They were asked questions about sexual relationships, depression, and suicidal thoughts. 29% of respondents said they have experienced a casual sexual relationship, which they define as' just to circle and cross paths with someone 'rather than dating. 24% of boys and 33% of girls have this idea.
The study, published in the Journal of Sexual Research, shows that there is a similar association between men and women's one night stand and mental health.
Causing depression
Claire KampDush, a professor of humanities at Ohio State University, said, "What's unexpected is that there are still double standards for sex in society. One night stands are nothing for men, but not for women. But these results show that the relationship between worse mental health and one night stands is the same, whether you are a man or a woman."