After I found my husband chatting online in the middle of the night, he filed for divorce and asked for the return of 200000 yuan of the bride price

My husband and I got to know each other through blind date. I have made several boyfriends before, but all of them broke up in a bad mood. My mother nags me all day and asks me to marry myself out. At the age of 25, I met my current husband. He is very handsome, and his free and easy spirit of doing things fascinates me. He also had a good feeling for me and hit it off at once. We talked about love and had a relationship.

When getting married, according to the custom of our side, we should pay the bride price when we meet. My mother is a little money addict. She thinks his family is in good condition, and we have a good relationship. The lion opened his mouth and asked for 200000 yuan. Because of his face, my husband agreed to my mother's request and gave her a card. My mother smiled and cried out to him. Maybe only I can see his smile.

On the wedding day, he drank a lot of wine. On the wedding night, according to the custom, people of the same generation can tease the bride. Several of his brothers were too aggressive and moved with me. I felt particularly embarrassed and asked my husband to help me out. He took advantage of the wine and said to his buddies, "I bought my wife. As long as everyone is happy, just tease.". On a happy day, I don't want the atmosphere to be depressed. I should cooperate with them and try to avoid their excessive demands.

Tired all day, they finally left. It was my turn to live with my husband. He was not as gentle as before and was very rude to me. He muttered, 'I was bought by him, he can do what he wants'. I was very hurt by him. After finishing, he snored and I was crying alone. When he woke up the next day, he realized that he had gone too far and apologized to me. I didn't care about it. As long as the two people lived well in the future, I would be satisfied.

Less than a year after marriage, our relationship has been changing constantly. He likes to play games and chat with netizens. I have found many times that every time I just talk about him, he can listen to it. Later, I didn't know how to offend him. He came back late from the party and didn't even bother to say anything. Several times I waited until late at night, when he came back in ragged clothes with the smell of wine and perfume. Asked what he was doing outside, he rolled his eyes and ignored others. After waking up, he looked like a gentleman again.

That night, he came back very late as usual. I noticed that he had been paying attention to his computer for many days. So I want to find some clues on the computer. On the computer, QQ is in the state of remembering the password. I can easily log in. He has many groups. The content of the group chat is very unsightly. As soon as I go online, a woman chats with him. I pretend to be my husband and chat with them. Without two words, the other party makes a complaint, and also attaches his three-point nude photo, and asks when my husband will accompany her. I was so mad that I cried and waited for my husband.

After he came back, I had a big fight with him. He also used violence against me during the quarrel. Although he didn't do it lightly, I obviously felt his violent tendency. After quarrelling, he put out the words of his wedding that year, "Your mother asked for so much money, and you are the one I bought. I don't need you to care about what I want.".

He is still taboo about that matter, and I feel more and more aggrieved. In fact, my mother didn't move at all and kept it for our future use. I told him the truth, and he said, "That's better. Anyway, I'm cheating, and you don't want to see me. We divorce, and you give me the money for the bride price.". I feel like I'm going crazy because of his insanity. Teacher, how can I live with him when you talk about his behavior like this? He always says I bought it and doesn't respect me at all. What should I do?

Reply from the consultant:

You got to know each other through blind date, but you didn't know much before marriage. Although you have married in advance, you don't know how much he is sincere about marriage. You think your mother is a money addict and asked for so much money. In fact, your mother just helps you manage your money. But he is also a man of good face, unwilling to bow down in terms of money, which leads to the contradiction behind. He is not happy in his heart, so he naturally pours his anger on you. In his heart, he just regards you as his bed mate, not the wife who stays with him for a lifetime.

As parents, no matter what their starting point is, they should consider their daughter's future marriage life. There are no few families that are in conflict with the bride price. If you can't open your husband's heart knot, your marriage can't continue at all. No money can be earned again. No friendship can be made up for no more money. Personally, I think your mother should explain this matter. After all, it was your mother that he was afraid of. If he still thinks that your family is for his money, so he let you marry him, you can choose to leave him. As for the return of the bride price, you can negotiate, or you can decide the priority by law.