I am 32 years old and my husband is 30 years old. We have been married for 7 years. Love before marriage for 1 and a half years. We met through a working relationship and have a 6-year-old child. I think we've had a good relationship since we got married. He's also very kind to me,
"But now that my husband is cheating, he says he's tired, and he says he's been teasing me.". He also thinks I'm too strong and says I need to be perfect in everything I do. Because I am busy making money and working, I feel that I have ignored him and have not given him more energy and love. He also said that I was not good to his family. Previously, my relationship with my mother-in-law was indeed bad, but now it's very good, but he likes to cling to the past.
My husband also complains that our marital life is not good enough. He may have higher requirements in this regard, I think it's okay. Then, he is now driving the car I tried to make money to buy and starting to have an affair outside. I discovered that he had an affair three months ago when I found a strange woman sending nude photos to him on WeChat through his mobile phone. I felt abnormal. When I asked him what was going on, he told me it was a shake. "I said just adjust the list, but he didn't agree, and I didn't go into it too deeply.".
However, by mistake, I once got his phone record, and I noticed that there was a phone number I knew very well. "I started checking on this person to see what they had done and where they had gone. The final result made me very sad.". What saddens me most is that I have now changed myself, learned to cook, take care of my children, and I haven't made much fuss. I want him to return to his family, but now he sends a photo of him kissing that woman to the family. "I don't know if he's deliberately showing off or deliberately annoying me. He's really going too far.". Not only that, but now he's biting me back, saying that a distant male classmate of mine and I have something wrong with him behind his back and have to make a fuss to divorce me, saying there's someone outside of me.
For this reason, I put up with it again and again. "So far, he hasn't even returned home. I said to my husband, take your clothes back and I'll wash them for you.". He said it wasn't necessary. Isn't that good? Save yourself from getting tired. I want to ask if I should divorce him now? And if we divorce and he doesn't want to give me any property, what should I do? He is a very rogue person of that character.
1. Some marriages can't endure the seven-year itch, but deeply reflect on who defeated themselves in marriage? Perhaps, sometimes it's not that the other person is not specific, but that we are really not good enough. Of course, if you think you've encountered a scum or unscrupulous man, it's still your own problem, at least because your vision is too poor and your choice is wrong.
2. "Your husband's various complaints and dissatisfaction with you may not be all excuses for infidelity and divorce. You may also admit that there are indeed shortcomings in marriage management, otherwise, you would not be able to adjust and change yourself so quickly in the future.". Unfortunately, your change is a bit late, and your husband doesn't take it seriously. On the contrary, he has no bottom line to stimulate you with intimate photos of himself and Xiaosan. It can be seen that he has made up his mind and has no nostalgia for you.
3. Since he treats you so harshly, you don't have to put your hot face against his cold butt. "He hides the truth of his earlier infidelity with a gesture of shouting and catching thieves, but he just wants to take the initiative in the divorce process and fully blame you for the breakdown of the marriage, thereby occupying property.". Since you want to fulfill his divorce request and are very worried about his rogues, the only solution is to seek legal help, which will protect everyone's legitimate rights and interests. "If negotiation fails, we can only go to the legal level. Why should we be confused? There are too many instances of couples turning heads against each other and becoming enemies. At this stage of things, there is no way to avoid breaking their faces.".
4. Marriage is originally a community of interests, and it is impossible for anyone to maliciously touch their interests. There is no way. Divorce is a matter of losing both parties. No one is a winner, and the most harmful thing is innocent children. For this reason, as a mother, you should consider the issue of taking care of your child's custody. It is best not to give up the child's custody. Children need to be with their mother even more. I hope that the breakdown of your marriage will not affect your love for the child.
Come to think of it, some marriages may be wise to choose to end, while some men may choose to separate from him as a relief.