Post Date December, 03 2023
Couples in the entertainment industry can split and close like a daily routine, and eating melons is already commonplace among the public. However, the recent news of the breakup between Song Chengxian and Liu Yifei, a "multinational CP," has stunned everyone.
But once a love relationship begins, various factors may lead to two people moving further apart, opening and closing. Isn't this the norm in love?
In the public perception, girls tend to appear "relatively injured" after breaking up, while boys' emotional fluctuations after breaking up seem not significant. Is it true that men don't feel at all after a breakup?
NO！ Research has found that breaking up is actually more terrifying for men!
Different mate selection strategies for men and women
Evolutionary psychologists believe that there are differences in the strategies used by men and women to choose their spouses during the long evolutionary process.
Due to physiological reasons, women are very cautious in mate choice in order to find high-quality men. Because once a woman enters a marital relationship, she is likely to experience a long pregnancy and lactation period, as well as a longer period of upbringing. As a result, their investment strategy in mate choice is often strict, which is also to ensure that their offspring can get the support and care of their father in the future.
Unlike women, in the long process of evolution, the investment strategy of male ancestors was to choose to interact with women as much as possible to ensure that their genes had more opportunities to reproduce. That's precisely why there is the saying that "promiscuity is a common problem among men". The same goes for the ancient King Hui of Liang, who talked about "few people have diseases, few people are lustful", which is a male psychological characteristic chosen by humans in evolutionary history.
There is also a saying in modern times that "men with high intelligence are not easy to cheat". However, the editor believes that if you are joking and have discovered cheating, you can still be considered a smart man?
Men are more afraid of breaking up
Research has found that men experience a stronger fear of 'breaking up' than women, and may even face mental health issues.
In traditional beliefs, women in romantic relationships belong to the weak and are prone to being hurt due to emotional issues. But a new study published on the US Health Day website found that men are more depressed, sad, and anxious after a breakup than women.
Researchers from Queensland Polytechnic University in Australia conducted a 5-year follow-up survey on 2000 couples, some of whom entered the marriage hall and some eventually separated.
Among those who break up, men are more likely to relieve pain through alcohol abuse and other means. The average time for men to start their next relationship is 6 months shorter than for women. Men often try to conceal their pain and rarely confide in others.
There are also studies showing that the happiness brought by love to men is equivalent to getting about 30000 dollars, which is about twice that of women. Breaking up can reduce men's happiness and make them less confident. In a sincere relationship, men are actually more afraid of breaking up and less willing to hear these two words than women, "the researchers said.
After a breakup, women are better able to adapt to the end of the relationship because they will start considering the possibility of a breakup and their coping strategies in advance.
Men are 'injured' for longer periods of time
Yuan Haowen, a poet of the Yuan Dynasty, once wrote a heartbroken poem after a breakup: "What is the love of the world? Teach people that life and death are mutually agreed"... Why do men have such a crush and melancholy towards their former lover after a breakup?
Recently, Craig Morris, a psychology professor at Binghamton University in New York, presented an interesting hypothesis in a research report published in Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences. He believes that this is because after the end of a romantic relationship, men and women face different strategies for choosing a spouse in the next step.
First of all, let's talk about women. After a breakup, they have to start choosing excellent men again, so they must quickly recover from the pain after the breakup to ensure their vitality and attractiveness.
Researchers believe that men also need to start engaging in the next round of courtship competition, but they may find that in this competition, they always cannot find enough excellent women, and the resulting sense of loss and nostalgia for their "ex" will also become more profound. (Editor: Aren't women the same?)
Through research, it has been found that the pain brought to men at the moment of a breakup may not be as profound as that of women (who experience greater pain during the breakup), but men may gradually develop a deep sense of loss, which may last for several months or even years.
However, the editor believes that although there are such research results, the specific situation is still analyzed in detail, after all
