Post Date April, 15 2023
Q:
In late May, I found out that my husband was not doing well and his behavior was very abnormal. He had been working overtime for more than two months in a row, but I know him well. He has always been skilled in his work and does not need to work overtime.
At first, I was lucky enough to believe my husband's excuse for working overtime, but after he returned home, his absent-mindedness became increasingly serious, and I noticed it.
I don't check my husband's phone, nor do I touch his laptop. I respect his privacy very much. We have been married for ten years, and our child is five years old. Everything is fine, life is ordinary and indifferent, and we are very happy. I think and think about it, but I can't think of any reason why he needs to betray me and this family. All of this is not easy. At the time, my mother-in-law opposed him marrying me and refused to accept me as a wife from another place. My husband insisted very much, There won't be any difference in lifestyle habits. Repeatedly working with my mother-in-law is what we are today. Although my husband is not very good at talking about love anymore, he said back then that I was the type he had always dreamed of, and marrying me was his lifelong blessing. I remember all these words.
Therefore, I repeatedly told myself, don't be paranoid, don't be overly concerned, my husband won't have any problems, how could he be? But women's intuition is always so accurate, and my anxiety makes me unable to sit still. Just last night, he arrived home at 11 o'clock, and I couldn't help but ask him, 'Who are you with these days? Don't think I don't know anything.'.
When I say this, I have no confidence in my heart and I am bluffing. I even prepared mentally for my husband to become angry and wrongly accuse him, and then how can I apologize and explain. But no, my husband actually admitted according to my words! He really cheated!
He said he hadn't had this kind of emotional feeling for a long time, feeling that the other person was very different. He came back late these days, but in fact, he was all dating that woman outside. He said that the other party didn't know he was married. He didn't dare to look at me when he said this.
I couldn't say a word at the time. I just felt like I was suffocating and the child was being coaxed to sleep, but then I didn't fall asleep all night. I really couldn't figure it out. Why is all this? My husband won't argue with me. We usually communicate well, but why suddenly become interested in other women?
Answer:
The problem lies in being 'plain'. Women guarding their homes develop inward, while men develop outward. Whether it's career or emotion, men are more willing to experience the feeling of pursuit. You may just be enduring a comfortable life, but in reality, he is not very satisfied.
The current favorable situation for you is that the husband is at least willing to communicate and confess some of the facts to you. Although this may also indicate that he no longer cares about your feelings, men are more direct. If he is not a lying person, he is more likely to be confused.
At this stage, you must be firm and not lost, because once you show hesitation, the man will further touch your bottom line. Many men have been in long-term contact with third parties to develop relationships, but the original partner has not been able to make the most appropriate response in the first time. Need help separating the mistress and contact us.
