Post Date December, 02 2023
Introduction: In the trivial life of a husband and wife, quarreling is a very common thing, but some couples can greatly hurt their feelings after each quarrel, and some couples can more understand each other after quarreling. Therefore, quarreling is also a technical skill. How can we not hurt our feelings when quarreling?
Use "my sentence" to express opinions
American sociologist and interpersonal expert Jean Yager emphasized that it is best to express opinions in the first person when arguing, such as "I think you hurt me", "I think what you mean", and emphasized that this is only your personal feelings.
Go straight to the point
It is difficult for the other party to understand where you are dissatisfied and what you want to do with sarcasm and accusations. To resolve a dispute, it's best to get directly to the point and articulate your ideas.
Don't talk about privacy
Even if the argument is intense, avoid discussing the other person's privacy or some personal issues. Violating this point will only betray and sacrifice the trust of others, causing you to lose out on small matters.
Give the other person a chance to speak
To solve the problem, it is necessary to tie the bell, give the other person the opportunity to explain and theorize, and listen patiently. Only then can we discover the real reason for the disagreement between the two sides and gradually solve the heart knot.
Leave some buffer time for each other
The ultimate goal of arguing is to solve the problem, not to be quick with words. Give each other some time to reflect and respond to each other's opinions and opinions, and further bickering is meaningful.
Don't slander the other party
Calling names and slandering is the most unwise form of quarrelling, which can only brutally leave lasting damage in the other person's heart and complicate simple issues.
Don't throw things or use your fists and feet
No matter how angry you are, such behaviors as punching, spitting, or smashing things must be absolutely prohibited during a fight. Any nonverbal actions will only make others' impression of you worse and worse.
Don't distinguish between right and wrong
When arguing, remember to remind yourself that differences of opinion are not a matter of who is right and who is wrong, just disagreement. Recognizing this makes it much easier to eliminate disputes.
Don't make it known to everyone
Making a noise and letting people around you watch can only embarrass both parties and worsen the relationship. Even if the sword is really drawn, it is necessary to find a "hidden" place.
Young couples should learn more ways to avoid hurting their feelings by quarreling, making big things smaller and smaller.
