Post Date December, 02 2023
I hope to have an unforgettable love, but in such a wait, I have become the leftover girl in everyone's mouth.
Later, under the urging of my family, I got to know my current husband. Although we didn't have love, as we grew older and under great pressure at home, I still married him. I know a marriage without feelings is a mistake, but I accepted it for the sake of my family.
After getting married, he treated me very well, but it was difficult for me to communicate with him. He belongs to the kind of honest nature, and I always can't talk to him together. Six months after getting married, I am lazy to communicate with him again. And he had no feeling of my rejection towards him. Indeed, in the past six months of marriage, we have a bigger problem, which is that he has no interest in sex. I can't do it once a month on average. It wasn't until I couldn't bear to ask him for a divorce that he said he found it difficult to accept. He doesn't think this is a problem. The current situation lacks communication and will gradually improve in the future. But I firmly told him that communication is one aspect and sex is a very important aspect of marriage, and he firmly said that he has no problems and he does not accept divorce. And I already hate living with him, I really can't bear to marry him anymore.
During this period, I have been feeling guilty, worried, and worried about my family's lack of understanding, while also feeling guilty towards him. But I have already decided to get divorced. What should I do?
Ms. Zhu:
In real-life failed marriages, it is often difficult to get rid of the ties related to marriage. But the most important reason for your marriage failure is that you don't have love communication. You want to understand what kind of life you need. If you completely care about others' opinions, divorce is responsible for the other person you don't love. In fact, understanding each other's needs makes things relatively easy.
The sense of guilt towards him and his family was a negative effect of the wrong choice at the beginning, and solving the problem was the first step in alleviating the sense of guilt. If one can feel at ease with their own decisions and realize that this mistake does not need to spread further, it is also a powerful tool to drive out family members who are not at ease. Having a sense of control over one's own destiny and emotions, being loyal to one's inner decisions, is the key to avoiding hasty progress.
