Post Date December, 03 2023
Some girls who marry divorced men find it difficult to adapt to this. They have no expectations for this situation. When a man walks out of marriage with one foot and the other foot remains in past social relationships, they cannot accept the state of being unable to monopolize a man, and pain and disputes often arise at this time.
Marriage is not personal, it is social and has strong social attributes, especially in China, a country with a profound traditional cultural heritage. Perhaps foreign countries can only notify their parents when they get married (which is not always the case, and in countries with strong family values, it is similar to ours, paying attention to their parents' opinions and also requiring ugly daughter-in-law to meet their mother-in-law), but how can it be done in China? Basically, it is necessary to inform parents from the beginning of love, and getting married requires their consent. The vast majority of them also accept donations from their parents. At that time, parents will also widely announce among family and friends that our family, Zhang Xiaosan and Li Xiaosi, are going to get married and marry their daughter-in-law. A grand banquet is held, guests and friends are invited widely, and gifts are accepted according to the order. The bride's red envelope and dowry are changed to change the money, and none of them can be omitted. You said that in a marriage concluded in such an atmosphere, can you be ashamed to pretend that you don't know your partner's parents or friends, and close the door to do your own little life?
No way! From now on, you may not only be their husband and wife, but also their son-in-law and daughter-in-law. You may also be their brother-in-law, Aunt Lianqiao, and sister-in-law. You may also be the fourth aunt of your nephew, uncle, niece, and daughter-in-law. A family with simpler social relationships may have some issues. If you encounter a family that values family relationships and is proud of a big family, you won't want to hide and be alone. Those who are willing or unwilling should follow gatherings and socializing, while those who are close or not should be perfunctory and socializing. A group of people who are noisy during holidays and festivals, if you are not happy, it is not suitable for the group. Your friend has also become his friend, and you need to familiarize yourself with his colleagues. Otherwise, if he doesn't go home that day, you won't even be able to find a contact number. If he has an office romance, you won't even have a close informant.
It's not easy to say that life is not easy. In such a complicated and mundane situation, it may seem trivial and boring, but missing any part may cause conflicts and impacts. The two people who have children have become the father and mother of the child, always connected by a bond. Whether the marriage relationship continues or is abandoned, this fact cannot be changed.
Yesterday, my husband watched the TV drama "Marvin's War". I glanced around and heard Marvin, who had divorced in the drama, say: "I am the father of the child, I don't care who he is in charge of. No matter who Yang Xin (his wife) marries, he is my son, and I have to take care of him. This is a big truth. A wife can be someone else's, but the child will always be their own. As long as the child is their own, there will be a certain degree of connection and communication after the marriage ends, which is inevitable. No one can change. Other social relationships are the same. Even if you get divorced, can you completely cut off all the social and interpersonal relationships that were shared with your partner in the past? You have too much in common, and some cannot be given up.
Some girls who marry divorced men find it difficult to adapt to this. They have no expectations for this situation. When a man walks out of marriage with one foot and the other foot remains in past social relationships, they cannot accept the state of being unable to monopolize a man, and pain and disputes often arise at this time.
If you want a simple life, then in fact, divorced men are unable to provide you with these things. They are destined to be complex, burdened with too many past events, and unable to relax.
