In recent years, my husband's career has developed quite well, and business trips are a common occurrence for him. There is a high probability for people on business trips to have an affair like this. Every time he goes on a business trip, I often joke with my husband and say, 'Wishing you a wonderful affair'! He replied to me with a smile, 'Who else has such bad eyesight besides you who would like to see me?'! I am 100% relieved of him, and I confidently believe that he only has me in his heart.
We have been married for three years without any children, and our relationship has always been very harmonious. In addition to upgrading from a lover to a husband and wife, travel, dating, watching movies, and all these small romances are still ongoing. This time he came back from a business trip, I helped him pack his luggage and found a box of condoms in his suitcase. Suddenly, many bad images appeared in my mind. Is it possible that he has someone outside? I shouldn't have. Our relationship has always been good, and I haven't noticed any signs of him having an affair. But how do you explain this box of things?
My mind was in chaos, and I tried to restrain myself and decided to start investigating from his phone. After he fell asleep at night, I secretly held his phone and opened it without a password. I cautiously clicked on his WeChat account, fearing that I might see something I shouldn't have read. I couldn't help but sweat a cold sweat on an unread WeChat message that said 'I can't sleep, I miss your body fragrance'. I flipped back and forth, there was no record, perhaps it had been deleted by him. I hardly ever closed my eyes that night. After this message was sent, there was no further text left.
I couldn't hide my words in my heart. From the condom in my suitcase to this naked and ambiguous WeChat, I felt even more that he had cheated. I took out these pieces of evidence and expressed my doubts. He asked me, with an innocent expression on his face, what do you mean! I have made things clear, I want to argue, I want to vent, I don't want to be betrayed, and I still seek justice through grievances. I am a good person and don't want to be played with like a doll.
My husband's attitude is very firm now and he does not acknowledge these things. He explained on WeChat that it was harassment news and accidentally added "nearby people" on WeChat while he was on a business trip. The issue with condoms was that he bought them before and didn't take them out of his pocket. This time, he happened to take the clothes away and then slipped them into the suitcase. It sounds reasonable, but my heart is so restless. He doesn't argue with me, doesn't argue with me, and works normally. We now want to be separated by a layer of fog, unable to see each other's hearts clearly. May I ask what I should do? Do you want to believe him?
Reply from Weiqing Consultant:
In your opinion, your marriage is calm, harmonious, and sweet, but it may not necessarily be like this, and the marriage will be stable and peaceful. Your husband often travels, which invisibly creates many opportunities for extramarital affairs. There are many temptations outside, perhaps he is also involuntary and unable to control himself.
You presented two pieces of evidence in front of him, but he refused to admit it, indicating that he did not want to pierce this layer of window paper. It may also be, as he said, a matter of freedom and nothingness. No matter whether he conceals it or not, since you have doubts, your marriage definitely needs to be repaired. It is important to communicate promptly whether the relationship between husband and wife is good or bad. Observe if there are any abnormalities in his behavior and make the next plan.