Post Date April, 15 2023
The implicit and introverted nature of Chinese people is well-known worldwide, although it has changed a lot with the opening up of society. However, in male female relationships and marriages, Chinese people are still relatively reserved. And this has led to many couples not managing their marriages well, coupled with the fact that Chinese people rarely understand romance, which further puts marriage on the brink of collapse. Therefore, when running a marriage, we must keep more Dim sum.
In addition, in order to manage a good marriage, there are several aspects that need to be addressed. If missing, it will make the marriage regretful. Let's take a look together now.
1. Innocence
In other words, it is childlike innocence. People with childlike innocence are happy and full of vitality. In marriage, it can bring more happiness and make marriage and love last forever, so it is best to retain a little more innocence, simplicity, and have more hobbies and curiosity. Although you may be a 'gentleman' outside, it's best to be a big child when the door closes when you return home.
2. Romance
In marriage, in addition to firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar, and tea, romance is essential. However, Chinese people do not pay much attention to these and believe that they do not need them in marriage. Actually, you are wrong. Romance is not just about giving flowers and dancing, it also doesn't require you to spend too much time and money. You should know that romantic forms are colorful and diverse.
3. Intimacy
In China, couples often maintain a certain distance when they are outside, rather than being as sticky and intimate as when they are in love. But expert research has found that intimacy has an indescribable effect on improving the quality of family life, and people who lack hugs and kisses for a long time are prone to "skin hunger", which in turn leads to emotional hunger.
4. Honeyed language
When in love, sweet words come easily, but once you get married, you can't open your mouth. However, psychologists believe that spouses must say at least three emotionally charged words to each other every day, such as' I love you '. And many Chinese couples hope that their spouses will show their love through meticulous and considerate care. This is true, but it is not enough.
5. Communication
In China, the tradition of male dominance still exists, resulting in authoritarianism. Moreover, Chinese people often suppress their opinions and unhappiness in their minds, not being picky, and even calling them "good tempered and cultured". In fact, mutual lockdown can only lead to deeper misunderstandings. Long term repression is equivalent to malignant energy, and once it erupts, it can be even more destructive. The normal approach should be to strengthen communication.
6. Praise
In Chinese families, both men and women often look at their children with appreciation, but when facing their loved ones, they tend to have a critical eye and always feel that the other person is not good. The correct approach is to look at the other person with an appreciative eye and often praise them. If you only talk about your spouse's strengths in person and behind your back, then you have learned to love and can reap it.
7. Funny
A person with a sense of humor and a great sense of humor can bring a lot of happiness in the family. If you have such conditions yourself, don't be stingy with your humor in marriage. Because humorous speech can resolve and buffer conflicts and disputes, eliminate awkwardness and barriers, increase interest and emotions, and make a family happy and harmonious.
The above are a few factors that cannot be missing in marriage, although missing a few of them will not immediately put your marriage at risk. However, over time, one will discover their indispensability.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
