Post Date December, 03 2023
It's important to maintain a balanced relationship before dating. If we don't know how to push and pull, sometimes we push too much, making others afraid to approach. Or sometimes pulling too much can make the other person feel less challenging.
Push-pull method is the key to arousing the excitement of love through ambiguous magic. In fact, regardless of the degree of the relationship, there is always one thing that the relationship needs, that is, balance. Once a relationship is out of balance, it can easily end or become unattractive. If we don't know how to push and pull, sometimes we push too much, pushing others away or preventing them from approaching. Or sometimes we pull too much, and we'll let the other party eat us.
The significance of pushing and pulling is to warm up emotions while maintaining a balanced state. So, what is the meaning of pushing and pulling individually? Pushing is the act of pulling away, denying, giving NEG, rejecting, roast, etc., which can make the other person feel that you are not interested in him. "Pull" refers to actions that bring people closer, affirm, praise, and make long-term eye contact that can make them feel like they have a chance to have an effect.
And what is pre relationship balance? If you want to be a "desirable" girl, which of the following women do you think men prefer? Is it a woman who lets herself do what she wants, or is it a bit challenging? The answer is: Both want it. However, only the latter can make people feel the excitement of love. Although the former is very easy to promote and the relationship should be no problem, it can make people easily feel bored, and the latter can make people want to cherish and cherish.
Pushing and pulling should be separated from your inner state
Most of them only know one kind, either pushing or pulling. Usually, people who only push, afraid of being hurt, defeated, relying on others, and afraid of others discovering their true self that is not worth being loved, become only pushers, and simply use the principle of not being close to others as their protective shield to isolate those who may not be able to accept their true appearance. A person who only knows how to pull can easily be disrespected, unappreciated, or even looked down upon by men, and degenerate into a person who eats tastelessly and gives up regrettably, sometimes referred to as a spare tire.
Of course, to make a man feel excited about his love, it's not just about passing messages, it's more about having face-to-face conversations and contacts to make a man fall in love with you! The push pull method is not only used before communication, but also important after communication, with different usages. The application layer includes speech, body movements, tone, body contact, intonation, and diction, which can be divided into push and pull. Sometimes the push of speech can be combined with the pull of the body to generate confusing messages. Such ambiguity can easily create a sense of excitement in love.
The push-pull method is discussed at two levels:
1、 Body language
1. Open body language (pulling): palms, inner arms facing outward, body muscles relaxed, touching, approaching, soft eyes, smiles, eye contact
Defensive body language (push): palms, outer arms facing outwards, and even some arches and concentration, sharp and concentrated eyes, distance, refusal, tense muscles, shielding oneself from others by something (perhaps crossed hands, bags, etc.), and rejecting eye contact
2、 Reaction level
1. Good response (pull): praise, affirmation, agreement, careful listening, excited emotions and responses, short reaction time, feeling of care, emotions affected by the other party, a strong tone of voice, a large number of auxiliary words, a lot of reactions to the stimulation thrown by the other party, willingness to eliminate difficulties, and a sincere attitude
2. Defensive, unresponsive (pushing): roast, negation, disapproval, random perfunctory, unresponsive, careless, long reaction time, emotion not affected by the other party, calm, indifferent, tone without any fluctuation, concise words, less stimulation for the other party, better response, unwilling to eliminate difficulties, insincere and glib.
However, no matter how you push or pull in behavior, it should be separated from your inner state. There is no direct relationship between your inner state and behavior. The reason why experts are experts is that they can divide behavior and inner state into two things. When to use push and when to use pull, it is also necessary to determine which type of push is usually accepted by the other party. If the person who usually receives push needs to do more pulling. If people who usually receive pull more often need to arrange more push components.
