Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband and I both belong to second marriage. We realized during college that he pursued me. I didn't have much feelings for him at the time and didn't succeed in holding hands with him. After graduation, both of us became families. He divorced his wife for various reasons, and I had no children since I had been married to my ex husband for many years. In addition, their relationship had become weak and they also divorced.
Later on, we formed a family with a daughter led by our ex-wife. After reuniting, we had a son who had congenital heart disease and is now in good health after surgery. His son is now over 5 years old. My husband often travels on business trips.
I received a phone call from a woman who said it was a woman with my husband outside and had an illegitimate child who was almost three years old. At that time, I was confused and thought she had called the wrong number, but she later repeated her husband's name, and I knew it was true. Quickly, we met and she said, 'She knew my husband a long time ago and knew he had a bad relationship with his ex-wife. She thought my husband hadn't remarried, and he had never told her he had remarried.' She told me that when she was six months pregnant, my husband sued her and had divorced and remarried, asking her to have a child. However, she was very angry at the time and insisted on giving birth. She gave birth to a boy. ', She said that my husband's attitude towards her has changed 360 degrees, and now he has a strong affection for their mother and son. Usually, from Monday to Friday, she is with her husband, and he only comes home on weekends. She is 10 years younger than my husband, and she called me because she didn't accompany them during the Spring Festival. She called me when she was unhappy. I asked her not to tell my husband that he called me, but he called me at night, and I pretended that nothing had happened.
I know from the bottom of my heart that my husband is a promiscuous man. Thinking that he has already been divorced once, it's impossible to think of getting divorced again, but I didn't expect him to have an illegitimate child. It hurts my feelings too much.
My current idea is to want all the property, and his idea is to keep the set purchased under his name for himself. My current idea is: I don't want a divorce, after all, I have a son and I don't want the child to get hurt. Additionally, when I didn't know this woman, I felt that our lives were actually quite good, with almost no blushes, and our extended families were also quite harmonious.
Ms. Song:
Hello!
Many women believe that 'a second married man is a treasure' and that 'he has been divorced and should know how to cherish the next marriage'. However, the reality is that a second married man may not really be a treasure. Anyway, his first divorce has an unshirkable responsibility to him, at least it can be seen as his irresponsibility towards marriage. Moreover, many 'second married' men nowadays divorce due to their extramarital affairs, Do you think these "playboy radishes" are valuable? Marrying him will only make you repeat the fate of his ex-wife.
Thank you to the "third person" who called you. If she hadn't come to you to complain, I'm afraid you would still be in the dark and continue living the "weekend" couple's life. Not to mention that the third person came to you for "whistleblowing" to break up with you - at least it would have allowed you to see the deceitful and selfish face of the "second married man" you married earlier. You don't want a divorce because of your child, but he has already had a way out and wants a house. This requires you to consider whether this marriage still needs to continue, and avoid using temporary "false appearances" such as false guilt, false remorse, and false promises to continue deceiving you not to divorce, and don't be drugged by some superficial "harmony".
If you want to solve the marriage problem with him, your goal should not be on that third person, let alone retaliate against her son. It's better to calm down and reflect on whether it was because you didn't see people clearly in the first place, met people improperly, or because you separated from each other after marriage; It is necessary to have a serious communication with him to make him realize where he is wrong and what kind of life he wants to live, rather than letting him mess up and tarnish his marriage and relationship. If he really wants to continue his marriage with you, it is necessary to make him show sincerity and sincerity.
