Sexual Health
Xiao San told himself: I don't want to destroy other people's families. He forced me to
Q:
He is my leader. All the employees in our department are women. He is the only male leader.
When I first came here, he took care of me, not only in work but also in life. I am many years younger than him. He asked me if I have a boyfriend. I said yes, but the relationship is not good. He advised me that girls should find someone who can spoil you. If it is not appropriate, they should divide it as early as possible and do not delay it.
At that time, I trusted him very much and listened to him foolishly. I thought he was right. It happened that he had a quarrel with his boyfriend again. The two people were quarrelling all the time. I told him about my boyfriend. He helped me analyze, said that the man was unreliable, and said that his boyfriend was not worthy of me. Anyway, the final result is that I broke up with my boyfriend.
After breaking up, my boyfriend came to me several times and wanted to get back together. He taught me, and you told him that you had a new boyfriend, and he would naturally go away. It's about this time, because I was in a bad mood for breaking up. After work, he accompanied me. Gradually, there was no such distance between the two people. He told me about his family and said that he was actually a painful man.
He said that he had been married to his wife for 12 years, but he could not conceive children. He tried many ways, but the problem is not on his side. His wife may not be able to have children in her life, but when she adopted a child, her wife firmly disagreed. He said that girls at your age may not understand, but when people reach a certain age, the idea of having a child is very strong.
I said I couldn't understand. I just feel happy with him now. But he was not satisfied. He began to say that he loved me and wanted to have a baby with me.
I have never thought of being a junior. My feelings for him are very complex. I rely on him very much. If we don't care about each other's identity or anything else, we basically get along like male and female friends. He can tolerate all my willfulness. When I think of him as a man with a wife, I feel aggrieved, angry, and can't help making trouble. But no matter how unreasonable I make trouble, he always loves me and spoils me.
He will give me whatever I want. None of the boyfriends I talked about before can be as obedient to me as he is.
But he wants to have a child, which makes me afraid. I have been looking for various excuses to have that kind of relationship with him. But once, we made an appointment late, so he proposed to go to his home (his wife returned to her hometown during that time, not at home). It's all downstairs. I just won't go. I stayed in the car until three o'clock in the morning. He just sat quietly with me in the car and smoked a whole pack of cigarettes in the middle. Later, because I was in a hurry, I couldn't help it. He said it was convenient to go to his house, so I went. After arriving at his house and going to the bathroom, he did that to me. As a result, he didn't let me go that night, and I couldn't do anything.
I am very ashamed. I can't say what I feel. I always think about that night. After that, he came to me again. I couldn't refuse him. Of course, he took possession of me again
That's how the feelings gradually deepened. I didn't want to destroy his family, but he was really too kind to me. When he forced me for the first time, I hated him a little. Now I feel a little inseparable from him.
I know this is not going to work. I have tried many ways. It's useless to not meet or contact him. He can always find me and persuade me in a few words. He won't let go. I asked him if he was with me just to have a baby. He said no, and said he had feelings for me.
I don't know what I can do next. I don't want to be a junior. He forced me
A:
He has a set of ways to deal with you, step by step. First of all, take advantage of the convenience of work, you obey him, and naturally, if he gives you some advice on life, you will follow his habits, so he successfully let you break up with your boyfriend. The second step, he will slowly reveal his intentions. This step is the routine of most men who have extramarital affairs, explaining that family misfortunes win your sympathy, and let you pity this "helpless" man emotionally, Men will say that they feel happy only when they meet you. Slowly, you will be brainwashed and think that you have the obligation to accompany this man. During this period, you may struggle, such as realizing that "it is not good to be a junior" and "don't want to destroy other people's family", but it is strange that you can't get rid of him.
Because he has successfully captured your emotions, you have moved to him, used your heart, and rely on him both materially and spiritually. This dual dependence interaction makes you want to go, can't go, can't split, can't split.
With different positions, it is difficult for you to feel the dilemma of the other side. You can't see how many wives who have been tortured by her husband's cheating want to do everything they can to ask her husband to go home. On the one hand are the wives who hate their teeth itch, and on the other hand are the women who feel innocent. They can only say that adultery is the most common disease in contemporary marriage.
We should not only help the derailed man return to his family, help the helpless wife save his husband, but also help the lost woman find the right way.
Suggestion for you: Only by rejecting bad feelings can we have a chance to have a better fate.