Post Date December, 02 2023
Oral speaker: Lucy (pseudonym),
When I first met him, it was his sixth year of being single after his divorce. He and I are both snakes, but he was born 12 years earlier than me.
This year is our second year of marriage. He is the first man in my life. I met him right after graduating from college, and then fell in love and got married with him.
One day after less than half a year of work, I went out to dinner with a friend and met him at that dinner party - the boss of my friend's company. He has an outgoing and enthusiastic personality, and although he is no longer young, his charm that has been honed over time and set off by success is very charming.
Later, he came over to greet me and praised me very gentlemanly, saying that I was beautiful and had temperament or something. To be honest, his praise is very measured, both praising people and not making them feel embarrassed or bored.
Later, he unexpectedly found out my phone number from somewhere. He asked me if I had time and wanted to invite me to the coffee shop for a chat. I hesitated for a moment, then thought to myself: I'm fine anyway, and besides, I wouldn't have anything to do with a man in his late forties.
I can't help but admit that he is a very likable man for women, and his graceful and traceless care gives people a very comfortable feeling. He told me about his failed marriage. He and his ex-wife are college classmates, and their relationship has always been good. After graduating from college, they got married, and both work in good institutions with stable jobs. However, his ex-wife has always wanted to go abroad, although their lives are relatively comfortable and they have a lovely son.
Later, his ex-wife still found an opportunity to go abroad, and the two of them got divorced. He took his son with him. He thought his ex-wife left him because he didn't have much money and couldn't keep her with the life he gave her, so he quit his good job and started his own business.
That day, he said to me, "From the time you entered the private room door of that hotel, I thought this girl was extraordinary. To be honest, after all these years of divorce, I have had many women and had varying lengths of time together, but none of them made me have the idea of living with her. Until I met you, you gave me a heart that I had never had before
Perhaps afraid that I wouldn't be able to accept it, he continued, "I just like you, I don't expect you to like me too. I've never told anyone about these worries, and I don't have any requirements for you. If you need my help, just say it." His words relieved my nervousness and also eased my stress.
From then on, we began to socialize. He doesn't hate his ex-wife and will ask his son to call her voluntarily, after all, that's his biological mother. Later, I was gradually moved by this decent and gentle man. He said, "After all these years, I have been disappointed in my relationship and I don't want to get married anymore." At that time, I thought, "If this man wants me, I will marry him!
Six months later, we got married.
I paid a heavy price for this marriage - breaking away from my parents' relationship. My parents firmly refused to allow me to marry a man twelve years older than me with a child, but I, who was also stubborn, insisted on my own choice even when I died. So, as an unfilial daughter, I broke with my parents who had raised me for many years for the sake of my momentary brilliant love
It can be said that this marriage is all I have. Fortunately, our married life was very happy. He treated me very well and took good care of me. "Baby, I will love you well. Although you are not my first woman, you are my last
After getting married, he didn't want me to go out to work again, saying he didn't like me being in contact with others all day. I was his own. In order to better manage our relationship and marriage, I followed his advice and resigned at home.
Those days were happy, and I lived happily and comfortably. But the happy days only lasted for over a year.
Two months ago, I was pregnant, but he drank a lot during that time, so we planned to give up that child. Although I voluntarily gave up on my own, I still felt uncomfortable after the surgery, as it was the crystallization of our love. But I didn't expect that greater harm would follow.
He has another woman.
One day, I saw an ambiguous text message on his phone, so I typed out his call and text message records. A phone number appeared repeatedly every day. I asked a friend about it - it was a woman named Lily, a young liquor seller who came to work in Jinan from another city.
I had a fight with him, but he refused to admit it, saying that those phone calls and text messages were all from friends using his phone to contact Lily.
Then I called Lily in front of him, and the woman arrogantly said to me, "I just want your husband, what can you do?" Then shamelessly told me how great he was... I was trembling with anger, but he grabbed his phone and hung up, saying that the woman was intentional. He didn't do anything at all, and if I took him seriously, I would be a fool.
Due to my weak body, the doctor specifically instructed me to have someone around me every day, especially at night, for the week after the surgery. Because the body is not very well, there is a possibility of massive bleeding during deep sleep at night. On the third night, it was midnight and he didn't come home yet. I started bleeding more and more, and my clothes and sheets were getting wet... I called him, but he turned off the phone. I had to tidy up and take a taxi to the hospital alone.
Later on, I learned that that night, he and Lily were opening a room at a hotel... In the early morning, he called me and rushed to the hospital to apologize, saying that he was on a business trip and not in Jinan. I know he's lying, but I didn't say anything and he wouldn't admit it.
I can accept him making friends with the opposite sex, having beautiful confidants, recognizing his sisters and sisters, drinking, singing, and playing cards. I can accept anything he does, but I cannot accept him having sexual relations with other women. Before getting married, he swore to me, pointing fingers and earth, that he would never do anything wrong to me, but after less than two years of marriage, he
I do everything very well, taking good care of the elderly and children, and I am also fully supportive of his work. I saved money for him and saved money for him. His and his son's things are always the best, but I am not willing to buy shoes worth more than 200 yuan myself... Why does he still treat me like this?!
I proposed a divorce, but he didn't agree. He said he didn't do anything, I was just worried about nothing... However, that Lily called me several times, and every time she used despicable and shameless words to stimulate me, such as "Your husband's skin is so smooth", "Did you see the kiss marks on his body? That's what I kissed", "You better leave him, I won't let him go"... Hearing these things made me feel extremely uncomfortable, But he didn't take it seriously and said that he had nothing to do with Lily. She deliberately angered me until she took me away... That time I was arguing with that Lily on the phone, and he actually fell asleep on the sofa next to him!
I can't bear it, the psychological pressure directly leads to my physiological reactions. Now, as soon as he touches me, I feel nauseous. Really, thinking of him with other women makes me nauseous. Sometimes I can vomit like hell.
I have put in too much effort for this family, but now I know I can't bear it anymore. I think it's time to fight for myself again.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
