Post Date December, 02 2023
Some people say that many things in the relationship between husband and wife will be saved if they are ignorant or pretend to be ignorant. So, can pretending to be ignorant really effectively solve the contradiction and marital crisis between husband and wife?
My forbearance made her go farther and farther
Mr. Shi is a 32-year-old company employee
I am very busy at work and worried about my wife's loneliness. I specially installed broadband to teach her to surf the Internet. Gradually, my wife began to like to stay in various chat rooms. I didn't care, because I also experienced this stage.
However, my wife is more and more enthusiastic about chatting. At the weekend, she would take me to the vegetable market and the supermarket, but now, as long as she sits in front of the computer, she will even forget to eat lunch.
I checked her chat record and found that she and a netizen chat almost every day. I thought it was disgraceful for me to check her chat record, and I believed that she would adjust herself, so I pretended not to know.
Two months later, I suddenly found that my wife was no longer always sitting in front of the computer. I was secretly proud that she had given up her addiction to chat, but I felt that her wife had become reticent. One night, she unexpectedly called out a name I didn't know in her dream. I think it's a bad thing. I check their chat records and find that they have already left their phone numbers with each other, and have also made an appointment with the address of the meeting. The call records in the mobile phone are almost all of this man's, and my head suddenly gets bigger. I think it is because of my indulgence that led to this situation. If I had stopped it earlier, it would not have been so serious. I regret it.
I accompany him to say goodbye to his first love
Miss Jiang, 25, administrative assistant
I'm not my boyfriend's favorite. I know this very well. Before me, he had a childhood first love. He had never been so warm to me. After several arguments, I found that this problem can only be solved slowly, so let's wait and see.
Not long ago, while I was thinking hard about planning activities for the second anniversary of my boyfriend's acquaintance, I saw an invitation in his handbag. The boyfriend's first love was getting married on our anniversary. I quietly returned two train tickets to Hangzhou. Forget it, let him go if he wants to go to the wedding.
He didn't see anything for several days. The day before the wedding, he called me and asked me to attend with him and asked me to help him choose a proper gift. I pretended to be generous and agreed. Watching me walking with him in high-heeled shoes all night, my boyfriend was very distressed. Seeing me carefully helping him choose gifts, he always held my hand tightly. When I got home, I wrapped the box in a beautiful package, and my always dull boyfriend thanked me. When he left, I cried aloud. He was so devoted to the wedding of his first lover. How could my girlfriend not be sad?
The next day, I specially wore a festive dress to attend the wedding. Although I was around, my boyfriend could not help but lose his temper when he saw the bride wearing the wedding dress. He drank a lot of wine and held the hand of the bridegroom. He must take good care of the bride. I could understand the pain in my boyfriend's heart, but I did not persuade him. That night, he was drunk and vomited all over me. It was nearly two o'clock in the morning when I helped him clean up and sent him home.
Early in the morning, my sleepy boyfriend knocked on my door. He came to pick me up for work. On the way, he said nothing but sorry. When he arrived at work, he took out two train tickets to Hangzhou for the weekend, which he had already bought. He said, thank me for accompanying him to say goodbye to that first love. His people and his heart will belong to me in the future. I listened and smiled with tears.
Ignorance has no deterrent
You Qing, 35-year-old teacher
Xiao Li is right. Sometimes pretending to be ignorant can peacefully put out some of the fuse that would have caused family conflicts, but men are often like children. If the tiger doesn't get angry, he will really treat you as a sick cat. If you don't point out his problem, he will think you really don't know the truth and will be more reckless. At this time, you have to scold him, and even use "bamboo shoots to roast meat".
At the end of the year, my husband held a celebration party in his company. After the event, he was in a good mood and told me excitedly that the young people in his company had very good ideas. When asked how he was, he hesitated and stopped, with an inscrutable look. At that time, I was busy preparing for the school final exam, so I didn't pay much attention to it. But one day when I was tidying up my study, I found some pictures of their celebration in the drawer, including several photos of him and a young girl hooking up.
After seeing it, I was very depressed. I wanted to throw myself in his face and ask him why, but I still wanted to calm down and pretend not to know. Because people always go crazy at the get-together party. If there is anything between the two people, the husband will not put the photos in the unlocked drawer so casually. I spent the afternoon calming myself down, then cooking, talking and living as usual. I didn't expect to see his MSN chat record on his computer later. There was a chat between him and a person with an obvious girl's name. The words were full of flirtation. Now I feel that I can't let this man be free any more. I threw those photos in front of him after he came back from work that day, and asked him to do things in line with his age.
Because I always have a good attitude, he was shocked by such coldness, and he repeatedly apologized. It can be seen that ignorance has no deterrent power. When appropriate, I still need to be intimidated. Now I still pretend to be ignorant of his chat records, but if he commits again, I don't know whether he will be intimidated again.
I forgave my husband's betrayal
I wish you a 38-year-old employee
Because of the poor efficiency of the unit, my husband and others jointly opened a restaurant. The big boss is a divorced woman who is 5 years older than her husband. After they started the shop together, the business is booming. Business is good, and my husband has less time at home. He is only at home for a few hours in the morning, and he also sleeps at home. At the end of the day, I can't speak to him.
After a few months, I found that as soon as I went to their store, several little girls walked away, and I didn't know what they were talking about privately. My husband always looked embarrassed when he saw me, and urged me to go back without saying a few words, which made me feel very strange. Later, the aunt who washed the dishes told me that it seemed that my husband and the female boss had a good relationship. Customers who didn't know where to go called their boss's wife, and they also admitted it. I can't believe my husband will betray me like this.
After all, this kind of thing is not good for anyone. I thought about it several times, but I didn't make up my mind to talk about it with my husband. However, although I didn't say it clearly, I can't let them develop. My husband always says that he is tired and has lost a lot of weight recently. So I found a chance to take him to the hospital to have a physical examination. The doctor said that the work intensity of the restaurant was too high, and people were too tired, so we should pay attention to rest.
I just take this as a reason to persuade my husband not to do it any more. I didn't mention a word about the gossip between him and the female boss. I don't know whether the doctor's warning played a role or whether my tolerance made him embarrassed. In short, my husband listened to me at last, and the gap between us was closed quietly.
Daily life is flat and long. Lovers have been together for a long time. Various factors from themselves and the outside world make both sexes easily emotional exhaustion. It crept silently over the hearts of lovers, cast heavy shadows, set dangerous traps, and endangered the emotional dam.
She dated her ex-boyfriend
Teng Wenqiang, 31-year-old sales director
I think that most of the lies between lovers and couples are well-intentioned, in order not to be misunderstood by the other party. They all say that lying is a waste of brain cells and affects the mood. The reason why they bother so much is because they care about the other party. So, if he (she) lies to you, you should at least be glad, and for his (her) lies, you can completely pretend ignorance. I am living with my wife in such a confused state of mind.
My wife and my former boyfriend have been in love for four years in college, but they parted hands because of various problems after work. After getting married, I knew that their memories could not be erased by any effort I made.
Once, my wife said that she was having a party with her college roommate, but I saw her eating with her ex-boyfriend in the corner of the restaurant when I went to have dinner with a client. I immediately found a bad reason to take the client to another restaurant. When I went home, my heart actually knocked over the bottle of Schisandra, which was very bitter, but my wife seemed particularly attentive that day. She was a simple person, and always tried to make up for what she did wrong. Looking at her, my heart softened and I pretended to be ignorant. Because I love her, I don't want to quarrel over this matter, and I believe she loves me too, and I try to make up for it in case I misunderstand and hide it from me. In this case, why don't I get confused.
In this way, we still lived peacefully and happily until that year, on our wedding anniversary, she confessed to me that she had cheated me to meet her ex-boyfriend. At that time, I knew that my efforts had paid off.
Nowadays, many marriages break up because of extramarital love. When extramarital affairs appear, should we pretend to be confused? First of all, it should be suitable for people, and then the most important thing is to be smart and "confused".
