In life, men may talk the most when they are in love and newly married. So now, many women have to sigh: once his language cell was very developed, and he could often talk freely, but now this situation no longer exists, because this man has become more and more silent.
1. Use silence to protest gossip
One obvious difference between men and women is that women like to establish and consolidate relationships through conversation and express their concern for each other; Men prefer to speak out their specific ideas directly. Women naturally like to chat, and it is easy to become garrulous. At this time, men will deal with it rationally - silence. Men will not directly refute, nor will they yell. Most of the time, because of this, women fall into a vicious circle. Women can't stand the silence of men all the time. More talkative, more expressive, more silent men.
Men choose silence. On the one hand, they use silence to express their emotions, thoughts and attitudes at that time, and on the other hand, they deliberately use silence to keep distance from each other. Married men are more accustomed to communicating their feelings and love with their hearts.
2. Use silence to recuperate body and mind
The pressure of men is beyond women's imagination. The responsibilities of family, wife and children, parents, work pressure and so on all cause a strong psychological burden on men. And since childhood, men have received the education that "men should be strong and stand firm".
In the face of pressure, frustration, helplessness, and tiredness, women can choose to cry to vent their feelings, while most men can't relieve their stress through tears. So many times, when facing pressure, men will choose to respond in silence, reflect and recuperate in silence.
When a man comes home with heavy steps, when he sits on the sofa without saying a word, when he turns a deaf ear to your words, you must not think nonsense, make trouble, let alone dictate. Maybe he just finished his conversation with the customer and was exhausted, or he was facing the delay of his life and career, and felt tired and hurt. The silence at this time is for recuperation and adjustment.
At this time, don't worry about what happened to him. Just let him spend an hour quietly and say "goodbye" to his work in the daytime. After that, timely care will make him very moved by your consideration and tenderness.
A special reminder here is that when a man is tired physically and mentally, if he is still interested in watching TV, don't turn off the TV when he is watching the news and ball games, and then say with concern, "When tired, rest early." Generally, men are more concerned about politics and ball games, and your concern will only have a negative effect.
3. Use silence to strategize
Perhaps you will find that when he is talking and laughing, he suddenly becomes silent; The house was busy, but he sat on the sofa in a daze.
In fact, at this time, silence is just a man's appearance. Maybe he is thinking of some strange ideas, or thinking about some strange problems, or what triggered his inspiration.
At this time, any caring, considerate and kind words are just disturbing noises to men. They don't want anyone to pull him out of his thinking state, let alone someone to interrupt or disturb him. At this point, you might as well be a silent attendant. When he finishes thinking, he will be open to you.
4. Treasure privacy with silence
When women sometimes interfere with men's privacy, men often choose to be silent. Because they know that more words must be lost, which also prevents her from controlling and supervising herself. Without the trace, his world would be much quieter.
Men think that as long as they don't say it, women won't find it, and things will become much simpler. Men fabricate lies to conceal things. I drank a few bottles of beer in the evening, had an affair on my business trip, and just got an extra bonus. Men's silence is another kind of concealment. In a crisis, men will be extremely self-closed. If women nag at this time, men will be more angry.
For sensitive topics such as love and sex in the past, men tend to be silent out of goodwill, because men also need a sense of security, hope to obtain security, and dream of showing their perfect self in front of women.
5. Men need to pretend
Male psychology researchers pointed out that men's world is full of competition, which requires distance, mask and calculation. The survival of men faces many cruel challenges. Women will feel that there must be a lot of secrets hidden in men's hearts, so curiosity continues to advance the depth of excavation. To make a man open his heart in silence, first of all, give him a sense of security. You can use the enthusiasm of women to comfort him. Or choose to listen to him quietly, evaluate objectively as much as possible, and seek solutions with him.