Post Date December, 03 2023
What is the "sense of security" women often say?
In today's society, many women lack a sense of security. They don't even know why they lose their sense of security? What is the sense of security that women are thinking about?
A reliable man?
A house sheltered from wind and rain?
A stable job?
A group of close friends?
A good marriage?
A card with a lot of money?
A car that can go?
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Are these the security that women want? Can you say yes or no? Why? These are just the concrete externalization of women's sense of security. The sense of security has nothing to do with how much you love someone, whether your feelings are as ordinary as a pool of stagnant water, and it can't come from how you do what your lover does. These superficial expressions and foreign aid can't give you a sense of security.
Foreign aid and floating watch are always temporary and unreliable. What is reliable is inner strength and self. Women tend to feel more secure: reliable, standing, and holding. That is, there is a man who can be trusted; I can stand in front of outsiders; It can stand up when the wind and rain come. Don't worry about life and emotions.
Why do women always feel insecure?
In fact, there is no direct causal relationship between security and gender. Security is closely related to some internal characteristics of a person, such as self-confidence. Since both men and women are insecure, why do women look more insecure than men?
Perhaps this is not born, but is taught. In people's childcare view, it is generally believed that boys should be raised in a rough way and released for training without worrying about their injuries, while girls should be raised in a fine way and be careful with their care. They are not allowed to wander outside in the middle of the night. It is true that boys are still wandering around in the middle of the night. If they fight with others, it is unknown who will lose more. But if girls are not accompanied, abducted or raped, no one can clean up the mess. In this sense, it is because they can't afford to lose, it seems that girls should have less sense of security. It seems that this sense of insecurity is the necessary philosophy of survival.
Women can't afford to lose more because they are women. Whether you want to have a baby or not, women's reproductive nature will subconsciously affect women, making women worry that they will have to raise their children alone once they are abandoned after pregnancy, while men don't have to worry about this problem. From an economic point of view, it may be more affordable to leave genes and turn away, so women are more sensitive and insecure than men when choosing a mate; The reason why leftover women feel less secure than leftover men is that it is generally accepted that women's best reproductive age is only ten years, and women's beauty is only ten years, while men choose women, appearance and fertility are almost the most important factors, so leftover women who want to marry will be very anxious.
Perhaps, it is also because women can't afford to lose, so they have no sense of security!
How do women get a sense of security?
Mencius said: born in sorrow, die in peace. It is very effective to provide a sense of security that can be achieved without effort if you want to kill a person and make him afraid and insecure. Stay away from things that make you feel safe! This includes a pair of parents who care too much about you, a card that can be swiped at will, a task that won't make mistakes, and a pension job. That will tame you into a slave of security!
Self-management
Now many women are starting to separate from men, but most women still rely on men. Why should I love a man with all my possessions? In fact, women who manage their own business well, have their own interests and hobbies, take care of themselves, and have their own beliefs are best. Such women will not be too short of money, people, and charm. Therefore, there is no shortage of men who love her.
Build confidence
Where does the sense of security come from? Its foundation is self-confidence. Where does self-confidence come from? From the love of parents in childhood. If you are in your twenties and thirties and still looking for security, it is too late. Can we still find the sense of security? Yes, we need treatment, and we should treat with our parents. Unfortunately, most of us do not know what sense of security is, so we will equate it with physical things such as houses.
Economic independence
Women have no sense of security and are afraid of men leaving. In fact, it is related to the most basic "survival security". If a woman has no income or is not enough to support herself, she will naturally be nervous about her imaginary enemy every day.
Stay away from fear
Watch less miserable movies, vulgar TV dramas and gloomy magazines. And stay less with those who have no sense of security. They are like garbage trucks, filled with fear and faith. Get close to those simple and happy people, look at those clean and bright movies and books, and do some happy things for no reason. Standing in the sun, you will slowly bask in the darkness.
Women with a sense of security are aware of their strength and may not be beautiful, but they are needed by the society, the industry and the job, so their hearts are full of a sense of security. There are many women who have a sense of security, and there are many sources of security. The most important thing is the women's internal change and the efforts of reality. They don't expect anything from outside. The most reliable thing is to rely on their own efforts.
