Will the other party not cherish being too proactive

Do you think true love comes from hard pursuit or naturally? When we are young, we often feel that what we finally catch seems precious, so girls have to pretend it's difficult to catch, and boys have to go all out to catch it. The process of chasing is best to be melodious, full of surprises and even touched by passersby. It may have been a long time before we finally caught up. We believe that if we pursue with all our heart, it must be true love!

So, before falling in love, some people will take the pursuit process as proof of whether the other party likes you enough. Some girls feel that they are quickly pursued and seem to have no value? Mistakenly thinking that catching hands too quickly, will the other party not cherish it? Is it too casual for a girl to take the initiative? How could he cherish it if he didn't make it harder for the other party to pursue? So, chasing seems to carry another meaning, whether it is enough for the meaning of love.

However, when I observe now, I actually feel that this is probably due to watching too many idol dramas and romantic novels. In fact, many happy partners and marriages around us do not come from pursuing each other hard, but mostly come naturally together, especially the older they get, the more they understand what they want and don't want. If they really meet the right person, they can quickly decide on major life events.

In fact, being chased is very troublesome. Being chased by someone you don't like enough can be difficult to find a way to refuse, and it's also troublesome to be afraid of hurting the other person's self-esteem, even making friends. So, I think if you like each other, don't spend time chasing each other. If you don't like each other, don't waste each other's time. Even if being single occasionally leads to loneliness, enjoying it is better than spending time with someone you don't like.

I have heard that some people will use difficult methods to test the other party and make them tired, to prove whether they love you enough. For example, intentionally being one hour late for an appointment, requiring him to pick up and drop off from a long distance, and constantly writing exam questions for the other party. Every time I see him, I think, why do you torture and mistreat him when you clearly don't like him?

We will also meet some goddesses who are always surrounded by pursuers. They always have a few suitors at hand and create an image that they find difficult to pursue. Even if they have a boyfriend, they will not disclose it, allowing others to have the opportunity to pursue. Everyone has the opportunity, but they are not sure, which is a very advanced management science. Previously, we might have envied such girls, but later I realized that they were actually wasting time.

Because when you spend too much time on objects that you don't really like, it's like losing time to find the right ones. That is to say, if you always hold onto those wrong people and see which one is more right, then you won't have time to meet the truly right person.

Because we know from the bottom of our hearts that what we strive for usually means that the other party doesn't like you, which is why you have to work so hard to pursue it. You may catch up because you moved him and he discovered your kindness. But what if one day he meets someone he already likes, someone he genuinely likes? What if you can do something to move him, but others can also do it better than you?

We may also encounter several times in our lives when we pursue each other or experience being pursued. So we all understand because we don't like each other enough, which is why we made him chase so hard. If I really like it, how could I let him work so hard?

Think carefully, that kind of hard pursuit is actually an unequal and unequal relationship, and even maintaining such inequality in a relationship. Some people may think that they want to suppress the other party, control them tightly, and this is the manifestation of love. But in fact, a truly healthy relationship should be equal and equal.

Moreover, if the other party is always pursuing hard and being bullied by you after dating, when you are proud, the other party may have a reaction

Make a day. I have seen people who were originally bullied and bullied, but after dating, they secretly had an affair with other girls behind the back of the goddess they finally managed to catch up with. For him, this is a silent resistance and a source of confidence. Because with a goddess, one cannot gain confidence. Only by stealing from other girls can one achieve success. That's why you see that some men marry beautiful wives, but the mistress is not as beautiful as their wives.

You have also heard a lot about it. After finally catching up, they changed a person together or after marriage because they didn't want to play it again. Since he has achieved his goal, he can be himself. And instead, he'll take care of you.

There are also people who, due to their hard pursuit, feel like they have put in a lot of effort, but in the end, they cannot get love or lose it, becoming a horror lover, trying their best to hurt or destroy you. There are many cases in social news.

In fact, pursuing is not a bad thing. There is always a pursuit in the relationship between men and women, and the process of pursuing can be very romantic and touching, of course, very good. But what I'm talking about is the situation where if one party doesn't like the other party, the other half is still struggling to pursue it. Of course, love may not only be based on emotions, but also on emotions. Love, there are already many possibilities.

But if you really don't like the other person enough, or if you know they just don't like you enough. So, this kind of hard pursuit will not be good for each other. The fruit that is forcibly picked is not sweet, and the fruit that is forcibly demanded is not truly yours.

A beautiful love should be built on an equal relationship, not on which side the balance leans. Only you love him, only you give, only he treats you well, only he has to endure you, only you sacrifice, only he suffers injustice... This is impossible for long-term happiness.

Don't love someone you want to pursue, nor let someone you don't love pursue you. Any kind is pain. Perhaps at an age, you will understand that pursuing is not so important.

Emotions or emotions cannot be compared to real actions.

If you really like someone, don't make things difficult for them. True love is not proven by the hard work you pursue. isn't it? If you truly love someone, don't always have to prove that you are stronger or better than them. If you love them, you should value their feelings even more. You want the person you love to be happy, and the person you love also wants you to be happy. Happiness is the foundation of love. If the love you want is built on pain, dear, that's really not love!